Would this annoy you???

I'd be annoyed that my TOG had taken pictures of her!

I didn't really think of it like that either but we had two photographers one who concentrated on us and the other on the guests and the cake etc. I'm unsure whether to call the hotel tomorrow and complain.

WSS - they're supposed to be working not messing about/dancing!

Yes i would be really annoyed. The bar staff are there to work not carry on like a drunken guest. I would also be annoyed at your TOG who has taken the photos. Yes you should be annoyed.

Why would your photographer think you'd want those pictures in your selection?

Its full pictures and it's just this one girl. I'm not really annoyed at the photographer it's just the way she behaved and if it wasn't for the picture I would never have known.

If I'd spent a lot of money then I'd give the Togs a ring and ask why they thought I'd want pictures of a member of hotel staff acting up in my wedding pictures. Then I'd email the venue with copies of those pictures & let them know how disappointed I am to see how unprofessional their staff were!! I doubt they'd do anything but I would want an apology!!!

I'd be very annoyed.

I'd be complaining to both the venue and the photographer.

Im new to all this what is TOG? lol and i would be annoyed you have payed a lot of money for them to be professional and help your day and night run smoothly not to act like they are a guest and have a good time, i would ring them and let them no im not best pleased and dont expect that from the staff x

I would email them the pictures with a big complaint!

DO THIS!!!

Why on earth the TOG didn't remove them from your link I'll never know! Guests, fine. Barstaff? No thanks. 2 TOGs or not.

Maybe I am being nice, but was she wearing a uniform? If she wasn't and was behaving like this, he might not have even realised she wasn't a guest. Or if she was, maybe your tog put the pics in as proof of her behaviour (although he should have mentioned this to you first). Just thinking of reasons why a tog would have done this.

Can't explain her behaviour though, I'd be livid!

I would be really annoyed - who was serving my friends while she was doing this? It's just wrong on so many levels.

Also - was she drunk? And if so, who paid for her drinks?!?! If she'd had any of those that I'd provided I'd be even more livid. I'd be asking serious questions of the venue.

I think you are over reacting tbh, I am a bit miffed as to why the TOG included this photo with yours. But at the end of the day it was just the staff having fun I have worked in hotels and weddings are very hard tiring work and often very long hours so a bit of light hearted amusement/poses which were probably egged on by your TOG is it really that bad?

If it was pictures of staff picking food up off the floor or sipping your drinks before serving them then I would kick off.

Think how you would feel if you cracked a joke or had some fun at work and somebody reported it as inappropriate and you lost your job because of it??? is what they did really worth that? It sounds like you would never have known if you had not seen the pics so clearly their antics did not ruin your day.

I think you have to look at it this way, were you happy with the service you received on the day? Were the staff cheerful polite and attentive? If they were its probably because they have a fun attitude towards their work, which is surely better than having a sullen faced waiter/waitress serving you. Weddings are supposed to be happy and fun. Was there other people in the picture of her dancing with the tray? If so she might of just been a bubbly girl who interacts with people in a bubbly manner and the TOG happened to catch that moment or like funkyjamesco said the photographer might of prompted her.

As for the photos on the bar that does seem a bit odd :/ However were they taken later on in the evening, when everyone had had a few drinks maybe? Only asking because my OH recently went to a uni friends wedding and towards the end when everyone has let their hair down they were propped up at the bar consuming as many different spirits as possible and getting the bar tender to do them flaming sambucas and he said that the bar tender was brilliant fun and chatty and eager for them to have a good time, so again it might of been some sort of interaction with your guests. Were there other people in the photo with her? However if this was something she was doing in the middle of your wedding breakfast or during your arrival it would be completely inappropriate or if she was drunk herself.

When you work in the service industry its great when you get a fun group of customers and it would be rude to walk away from a laugh and a joke with clients, so it really does depend on the context of her behaviour.

As for the photographer unless he/she had a hidden agenda (which I really hope they didn't) they probably believed they were just capturing the moments of your day. As long as they were not missing more important moments while taking these photos. Are you happy with the rest of the album? And did they photograph everything you asked with attention to detail? If not then it maybe a case of they didn't have their priorities straight.

If your not happy then definitely speak with the venue and photographers because there is people having fun and enjoying their work and then there is crossing lines and without seeing the photos its difficult to judge whether thats the case or not.

I hope you had a brilliant day though! Will you be doing a wedding report? I have got such an addiction to those ?

As others have said I think the main issue is the photos being included for you to see.

If you were happy with the day and the hotels performance then I wouldn't be complaining to the hotel.

If you are happy with your pictures overall I would mention what has happened to your tog and see what they say-its a mistake that shouldn't have happened but if the pictures weren't there would their be any other reason to complain about the girl in question?

After all you would be none the wiser if it wasn't for what seems like a small slip up on the togs part.

Although they are not the type of photos that I would take, if your coverage was reportage, then this was an actuality that occurred at your wedding and as such was open to be photographed as it was a real event..... It's your choice to include or exclude this image from your album. Reportage doesn't ask questions, it simply records what is going on without influencing it..

I agree with this. I work as a chef and can do very long hours, so having some fun is what keeps us all going sometimes. It seems as though she didn't do any harm. There is no way i would want to be responsible for someone losing their job.

I agree, i have worked in the hospitality industry and it can be boring...i'd rather my venue staff be up for a laugh and fun and friendly...as long as your service wasn't affected then i wouldn't complain as someone else said this girl could lose her job...maybe speak to the TOG and ask what the circumstances were surrounding the pics? e.g if she was entertaining your guests or if it was just for her own fun etc....i work with one lady who is very over the top and crazy and dances around the restaurant and jumps around etc and customers love her!!...i would do a bit more investigating, you could find that she was cracking up your guests at the time and the TOG wanted to capture it...don't do anything hasty as far as naming and shaming to her manager until you know the situation it happend x

I agree with this, I certainly wouldn't be bothered about the tog taking the photos or including them (although I might ask for them to be removed esp. if they're doing you an album).

I can see the points being made about 'having fun at work' but the point where she is lying down on the bar would cross a line for me I'm afraid. I don't think I would personally complain to the hotel (but that's because I hate complaining) but I don't see it as professional at all. There's a difference IMO between dancing around and interacting with customers, which is fine... and actually getting up on a bar and lying down on it, which IMO goes too far.

I would be so annoyed and would complain to the hotel an d show them the photos as evidence, i would say that you hadnt complain even thouhg you were aware of it at the wedding but you wanted to wait for the photos so that you could show them what you mean and ask them what they intend to do about the fact that this member of staff was clearly enjoying herself at your expense.

I think you're over reacting TBH.

Yes, her behaviour wasn't professional, but it obviously didn't impact on the service you recieved, so I don't see the issue.

Can we see aforementioned photos?

I don't think it's an issue at all, she hasn't been rude to your family or friends she hasn't stolen anything, she is merely on a photo you don't have to buy.

The poor girl was just dicking around, I certainly wouldn't let it bother me, nor would I complain about her.

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I wouldnt be happy I must admit but I would say it would depend on the pictures?

Can we see so we can offer better Judgement?

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Yes I would be annoyed, not just at the hotel but also the photographer if she was not just in the background. As for complaining I don't see what good it could do though really.

I worked as a bar maid for 7 years and did many weddings. I had a great time laughing and chatting with guests. However I did not lie on the bar! That was the point where it has taken a turn for me. If you could post the pics it would be easier to give advice as not sure of the content. But if this was me I'd be emailing the hotel.

As others have said, laughing and joking with guests is fine but lying down on the bar is not professional. I wouldn't expect staff to behave this way at my wedding. The TOG was probably just taking pictures of the people he could see enjoying themselves. However, I would think that at the point of putting the photos on a disc the TOG might inspect them and realise (if the member of staff was in uniform) that these would not be pictures that you would want, but at least they're giving you the choice.