would you be upset if........

Was it still in full swing? If so hell yeah I would be annoyed. My moh went home earlier than the end but she had two kids so I expected it. Or was it sort of ended but people just hanging around having a drink?maybe if that was case I wouldn't be so pissed. How did she do it?

Hihappyivoryhair 137, she was late to start off with, missed the photos so I only have 1 bridesmaid in pics instead of 2. For my Scottish reception I had a photographer for 1 hour.The moment she got there she was on about going to a nightclub with her boyfriend later on that night, the party was in full swing. She got changed out of her dress, came into the reception in a miniskirt and told me she was leaving. We had words the next day, she can't understand why I am so upset. All I got was " I don't know what your problem is ". We haven't spoken since.

I can't get my head around it, she is in her 40s (not that I am saying she shouldn't be going to a club at that age) however just not on this night.

It's taken me a while to post on here about it as I have been so upset x

She sounds like a total waste of space. I'd be raging then I'd just cut her out. Drama Llama, me? Ha, maybe but it's how I'd feel!

Tiny-tiggs I did wonder if I was being a drama queen however I know I'm not due to how I feel. I can't see us repairing this friendship x

I think you're right to be upset. Why did she agree to be MOH in the first place if she wasnt even interested in staying at the reception? However, the ship has sailed so I guess you just gotta try to forget about that aspect of your day and not let it ruin your memories. Are you still friends with her? I think I'd seriously reconsider the friendship if she doesn't understand why you were upset. She sounds kinda selfish and inconsiderate.

IIn that case snip snip snip the sound of cutting her out of your life u don't need friends like that

What a blatant disrespect and disregard to your special time.

When I read it I thought perhaps 18 or so so immaturity could give her a small excuse but at 40 no chance.

I would be more raging about her missing the photos, that's just not on.

Inkdoll no I am not friends with her at the moment, my husband (love saying that) says I need to try and forget what she did. I will do but to me getting married is a massive thing and I lost a friend because of it.

Thanks ladies for replying too x

No, you are not being a drama queen. She was out of order! It does make it worse that she is in her 40's as you would think she would have more maturity and consideration. Is she normally so thoughtless?

Erin8 I think it all started to go wrong when we got engaged and started planning the wedding. She use to be a kind and considerate woman.

She wasn't bothered about dress shopping for my dress, it was a nightmare trying to get a bridesmaid dress for her as everything was too long, not the right colour. She then went on to send me photos of bohoo dresses, they were very short and clingy and not even on my colour scheme. I also had to buy her a 2nd pair of shoes as the first she had covered them with fake tan fingerprints. My hen night she fell asleep at the table then went back to the hotel, I wasn't so fussed about that as I thought it's only a night out. The night before the wedding she didn't spend it with me so I text her and told her what time to come to my hotel for the next morning and I didn't get a response however she did turn up on time. On the day of the wedding she sat painting her nails in the hairdressers which I thought she could have done the night before. As we got married abroad we all got changed out of our dresses due to the heat, she also managed to get a hole in her dress. When the bus arrived at night to take us all back to our hotel I turned around to look at the table and she had left her fresh white rose bouquet so I asked my husband to get it so I could place it somewhere nice instead of the restaurant bin.

What a total rant I am having.

I had a brilliant wedding but I just can't forgive her behaviour.

Aaah. Is she jealous do you think?

Erin8 I hope she isn't as that's not a true friend x

You're not a drama queen, I'd be upset too. I'd be gutted that someone who I considred to be a very good friend didn't appreciate how important the day was to me.

She sounds pretty self absorbed if I'm honest.

Amputate.

Nor a drama queen at all, i would have been so pissed off with that alone but on top of everything else! I cant believe she was late and missed the photos! I would be fuming!!

You're definitely not being a drama queen! I think it's totally out of order to miss the photos and leave early!

Oh no! she sounds really selfish. I think you're well within your right to be upset about this.

Doesnt sound like she's understood that her behaviour is bad. It's always sad to lose a friend but in this case I think there's really not much there any more and little point pretending.

Jesus, I would be fuming and I would let her know about it too. You're absolutely not being over dramatic.

Hi jojo85, I am still mad with her. The only time I spoke to her about this was the day after the reception, I told her she was way out of order and that I was really upset. My wedding finished at 1am in the morning and what made me laugh was she said she left at 2am, erm the party finished an hour before that. She left around 11pm.

thank you all for your responses, I think asking you all has made me realise that I am right to be upset and I decided before coming on here that our friendship was over as how can I ever be friends with her again, it wouldn't be the same. Other people even commented on how non enthusiastic she has been towards it all, such a pity as we used to be really good friends. She lives with her boyfriend so she has no need to be jealous (not sure if she is or not)! Xx

Definitely not a drama queen! I would be upset too.

Definitely not a drama queen. I would be upset too.

My sister did similar (though I expected it given the sort of person she is). Refused to bring her kids to my wedding so they weren't in any of the photos, stayed for the wedding breakfast, virtually as soon as she had finished her meal she vanished off home to 'check on the kids' (didn't even say goodbye to us, my Mum had to tell us she had gone), and never bothered to come back for the reception at all!