Would you change your date for Wills and Kate?

Here's you talking about having no football etc on the tv on the big day but I agree with Tinks, if I were to be marryng my beautiful b2b Grace85 whilst the world cup was on then we would certainly have a tv showing it, Also I am a huge spurs fan and as it happens on feb 26th our wedding day it is the massive north london derby spurs v arsenal and this game will without a doubt be on the tv/big screen, and what makes it even better is that the whole kind of theme is revolved around spurs, and I must agree with all the other ladies on here that the royal wedding would not bother me if it fell on the same day, wills would be more than welcome to share his day with mine and I for one would have it on the tv.

Well said Kev. We have been to loads of weddings which have clashed with either big football/rugby/cricket matches or with F1, and people will usually be interested in the result - I don't think most people generally have a problem with this. As it happens I'm getting married on a Friday - not to avoid guests trying to find out the footy scores, but to avoid me doing so - don't think the bride desparately trying to borrow a mobile to check the results is a good look!

Here here Yidokev! Think us 26th Feb peps have ours heads screwed on pretty well. I can not understand why you would want to cut your guests off from anything big happening in the outside world.

'how many people here would tolerate people watching something on the TV, regardless of what it was, during their big day?'

So in answer to your question AJ I think most people would tolerate it and a lot would join their guests in watching at least some of it (whether 'it' is a royal wedding, football match, grand prix or next years equivalent of the who killed Archie Eastenders)

I plan to put off anything and everything that day so I can watch!!

If i were to share my wedding day with them then I'd prolly raise my glass to them and wish them all the best too.

Pals of mine insisted I didnt choose specific weekends where it would clash with the yearly music festival. I did choose that weekend but the hotel couldnt fit us in then so had to move it again..

I don't expect it comes as much as a surprise that I'm not "most people"

If something sport related is a big part of both of your lives, and it's part of your day's theme then there's of course no reason why you can't incorporate watching a match or whatever into your theme - but I can't see people wanting to join in with one of my interests. "1990's Rail Freight in the North East" isn't everyone's idea of a good couple of hours entertainment...

Damn! I've just realised the last GP of the season may be the same weekend as my wedding, i'll deifnately have to get someone to update me with the qualifying results!

Get the best man to have an iPhone in his pocket. When's the wedding Claire?

12th November 2011

I do try ?

ooo - that really is a possibility. At least it definitely won't clash with the royal wedding.

Yeah. Apparently there's going to be 20(?) races next year, so it may not be the last one though.

I think I'd feel flattered that K&W decided to follow my good taste & have their big day on the same day as us. As long as they don't nick the RAF swords that we've reserved for our sword party!!! TBH it would cost so much to change the date (& i know there aren't any more Saturdays available next year at our venue) that come hell or high water we will be getting married on 10th September ?

AJ - I am sure that my fiance will look just as smart in his RAF uniform as Wills & at least (IMO!) my HTB will have more right to wear it than William having spent a total of 2 years flying in Afghanistan. William will never be allowed to fly in a war zone in case he gets shot down & held hostage by the Taliban.

They're adding an extra race (in a new country but I can't remember which one) next year so the GP year may well be a bit longer ? YAY!!!!

2011 grand prix calendar is on Wikipedia here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2011_Formula_One_season#2011_calendar

edit: Claire - that means Abu Dhabi is your wedding weekend. penultimate GP!

Last thing id heard which ever day it is will be made into holiday for the rest of us, so if it happens to be on your wedding day bonus! the guests will have the day off

I dunno about you lot but I'll be keeping my eye out for any new hitchers!

When the newbie asks us if we prefer the diamond tiara or the crown jewels for her accessories.....Haha I'd LOVE it!

Not a chance!

I may have a wobble if I lived in Central London and my Wedding was tehere, imagine the nightmare with roads closed, diversions & Security!

You leave me speechless constantly. If I was going to be pulled up for even mentioning Will and Kates day then I'd gladly not be at your wedding or be your friend. Fark me why not give people a list of the topics they can and can't talk about and whilst you are at it you better record everyones conversations so you can check up on them.

Seriously people will mention someone elses wedding on your day....thats life get over it! I'm posting this before I even read the next 3 pages of the thread.

We constantly hear "your wedding, your rules" when it comes to choosing bridesmaids dresses, hair, shoes etc (particularly when you're paying for them), your choice of "unusual" entrance/exit music, etc etc - so why is "my rule" to not have people thinking about a royal wedding instead of our big day so unreasonable?

As for "people will talk about other people's weddings" I would hope that our friends and family have a little more taste and class than that to compare (and criticise) our arrangements within our earshot.

AJ you cant bloody choose what your guests are THINKING!!! I cannot believe you say that and compare it to choosing an "alternative" song to walk down the aisle to or having bridesmaid in jeans and tshirts etc.

Also I bet at least one of your guests will compare your wedding to someone else's. They'll say something like "oooh those colours are a lot bolder than ***'s" or "doesn't ***'s dress look beautiful? Much better than **'s"

Only 2 words, well icons - ??

O.M.G, i've signed up to this site not even 2 hours ago and this dude is boring me already, thank goodness all you ladies have got far superior intelligence :-)

Haha kev that made me giggle!

PS Love your ticker! Bit different to all our flowers and hearts ?

AJ, I seem to recall seeing you reply to someone's post about using alternative songs the other day, and suggesting that they shouldn't do this as they may offend their parents - doesn't really seem to hold with your claiming to abide by the mantra "your day, your rules".

And, as has been pointed out, you cannot possibly control what people are thinking. I know we all want to plan our wedding day and will be able to control certain aspects of it, but nobody is able to contol every little detail - least of all what is going on in people's heads.

Has to be done NurseBride2B, fits our theme for the day as its based on the mighty tottenham hotspur :-)

My theme is a vintage tea party so trust me a sports match does not incorporate into it. And sport is not a big part of either of our lives. However I am aware that I am part of a world where there are other things happening and so would never shut off my guests and insist they only have eyes and ears for me and my OH for the day. I know that my wedding is the day of England v France in the 6 nations and so know that many of the men will be watching that in their rooms till the last min and will prob be wanting to know the score after the ceremony. I do not see that as a slight on me or the wedding, neither do i want to incorporate it into my day instead it is what it is an event and my wedding is what it is wedding. I will think no less of my friends who want to know the score than those who couldnt give 2 ****s.

Aj, how would you ban all talk of the royal wedding on your day?

would it really be that bad? surely most people would incorporate it into a speach or something. I think it would be lovely if they had the same wedding date as me (although i'm already married) its not as though you're in competition and you must remember that your wedding is going to be totally different to theirs.

Its normal that it will be mentioned if its on the same day as yours. I was at a wedding a few years ago and there was a celeb wedding on that day, of course it was discussed a lot but now a few years later, I can't even remember who the celeb was that was getting married, may have been Jordan and peter andre though.

The groom covered it in his speech and thanked their guests for refusing invitations to the media spectacle of the other wedding to be at theirs lol

Obviously you can't "control other people's thoughts" but I certainly wouldn't make mention of it anywhere and request that none of the speeches etc do either.

As far as I'm concerned, on our big day, our wedding is the only thing important happening anywhere in the world, and nothing else is worthy of a mention.

I really cannot see how that can be considered unreasonable, particularly if both me and my b2b are in agreement (which we are).

Anyway, it's all speculation because they haven't announced a date yet - but I'm sure that whatever date they pick it'll ruin someone's big day.

It's being so positive that keeps you going AJ. How will they ruin someone's day. They are another couple getting married - they'll just have super attention and international film crew. But it's still just their wedding. I doubt there are many people who would consider sharing their wedding day with Wills and Kate as ruining it.

If you, and others, wouldn't see it as a problem to share the day, then that's fine, nothing to be concerned about. However, I do not feel the same. It's as simple as that.

I'm sure that there are people over the years that have shared their big day with a real "world class news event" and it becomes the day that X happened rather than your wedding day. I'm sure we've all been asked "where were you when you heard that Diana died" or similar at some point in our lives.

To the world maye but not to the B&G, their fmailies and friends.

You seem to behaving worse than any Bridezilla I've ever come across - either that or your so insecure you're actually worried that another wedding (which you've already pointed out is just as important as any other wedding) will overshadow your big day. Are you worried about their budget AJ as you always seem to bring the 'b' word up. It seems in your mind you think the bigger the budget the better the wedding...