Would you change your date for Wills and Kate?

Aj, of course to you and your b2b are going to think that your wedding day is the most special thng happening on that day but dude, seriously you can not expect other people not to talk about wills and kate or any other big occassion, a wedding is a social gathering for friends and family to witness the joining of a man and women, this does not mean that other major events can not be spoken or forgotten about, who cares if people check their phones for sports results or take a look at a royal wedding, 5 mins taken out of your entire day wont kill anyone, there are points in the day where you will be too occupied to even notice if any of your guests have shot off to check results etc.

If I am honest with you dude I would quit while you are miles behind because your just getting deeper and deeper.

Truly truly stunning statement.

Bit lost in all of this now but I will certainly be thinking of Becci747 on our wedding days! I will leave a little excited FB message in the morning! I was delighted to get a date twin and at the end of the day Wills and Kate are just someone else's date twin.

The same way Becci's guests aren't going to leave her wedding to come to mine and visa versa, Kate and Wills will have as much or as little impact as you let it.

Personally, I agree with others and would likely make a little mention in the speeches and have a little laugh about it.

As for not talking about it, AJ what sort of friends and family do you think you have?? You are worried they are going to compare and critise your wedding, you dont want them to drink in case they 'go too far', you won't have a stag do in case they ruin it?? If I was one of your friends I'd be very offended by now.

Most of my friends and family would likely say 'Kate looks beautiful today but not as beautiful as you'

Really? You join one day ago, have posted four times, all posts in this thread, all in response to something I've posted or said, seem to have a very wide knowledge about me, who I am, what I think, my history, and I'm sorry but that all seems a little strange to me.

Folk lurk on hitched for the craic AJ ... maybe he's a stalker.... who can't hold his tongue anymore. Maybe he's a hitchers OH?

He's my OH SP ?

So he knows all about our delightful AJ

Is he really Grace?? Hello Grace's lucky half!

Another Groom- fab!

Are you honestly that self absorbed that you believe the world will grind to a halt on your wedding day!!! Life will contuinue as normal and no matter what things of note will happen to people. Whatever happens on the 19th April and whatever importance it holds for the rest of the world that date will first and foremost always be my wedding day to me and my OH!

Re you comment about Yidokev did he not mention in his earlier post that he was Grace85's OH!! That would clearly explain why your reputation preceeds you!

Back to the OP Im not concerned about it clashing as Im pretty sure they would not be gettin married on a Tuesday but I cant imagine it would bother me, i think all the wedding fever sweeping the nation would add to the excitement!

Hee hee! I thought that was a possibility... I saw your OH name on FB and wondered!

strange, why is that aj??

I may have only joined myself a day ago but I have been on here with my other half for alot longer than you probably think.

I have just merely read the ridiculous comments you have about the whole wills and kate situation, who cares what major event falls on the same day, a quick check on what is going on isnt going to hurt if a guest or two feel the need to. If there was anyone else here that was so scared that that their day was going to be over shadowed by another wedding or any other kind of event then id say the same things, at the end of the day its your day and its what you make it, if you want it to be a ruined day because the royal wedding may get mentioned in earshot then that would be your problem, its only a big deal if you make it that way.

It shouldnt matter what is going on on the same day, nothing will be as big to you as your wedding and if your guests thought more of anything else that is going on then why would they turn up to your big occassion?? the only way your wedding is going to be ruined by anything is if your being too self conscious about everything.

As it happens the royal wedding more than likely wont fall the same day as yours so chill out about it dude, everyone else on here seems to be happy to share the day with the royals if its on their day. you just got to chill out a bit fella and enjoy your day, the only thing ill be nervous about on our day is my gorgeous other half coming down the aisle, other than that what else is there to be botherd by??

Funny, when I said that previously, I got shouted at from a number of people.

Hello laura, sp , trickers and of course my gorgeous Grace. :-)

isnt it a lovely day,hehe

I'm not just saying this because he's my OH but it's the way you say things AJ. You always state the negative in the situation.

On our wedding there is one of the biggest football matches of the season going on but to me that doesn't matter, i'll be getting married, but if my guests or even my OH want to check the scores then they are more then welcome.

Hello babe ?

Don't get too comfortable, this is my sancutary, ha ha.

Lets be honest there are probably a lot of poeple getting married on the same day as you accross the world so why should another couple be a problem! Thinking about the friends and family that i have invited i cant see them being that bothered if they were getting married the same day as me as too them there are only two people getting married that day and thats me and my other half hence why they are all at my wedding! Its a fact of life that people compare things, if people want to compare my wedding to a royal wedding then fantastic, id rather that than compare it too a chavvy one!! Im not sure id have a TV on showing any event as thats not my thing but if people wanted to check up on things on their phone thats fine, i cant stopped people from doing something just because im getting married!!!

AJ, you really are a pillock!!

As I've repeatedly stated, if you are both fine with that then great. However, and not just because I have no interest whatsoever in football, I wouldn't be at our day.

We got married on the day of this years community shield - me, H, brother and BIL are all Manchester United fans, my Dad Chelsea - guess who played?! I was more than happy for people to keep me informed of the score and it was, in a very jokey way, mentioned in the speech. At no point did this bug me because it's part of what we enjoy as a couple, and as a family so it only highlighted something important to us on our important day.

A guest having 5 minutes away to check a score or GP result is no different to a guest popping out to have a smoke imo.

We wouldn't change the date of our wedding should it fall on the same day as theirs. I would be pleased our wedding isn't in London though, purely fron a logistical point of view. Ultimately it's sharing a date - neither they or we are making a promise less important than the other so I really don't understand why it's an issue.

I would be sad not to be able to watch it but not sad enough to alter our date.

Besides, it's an excellent excuse for Mr CB and me to roll out our commemorative 'CB and Mr CB got hitched' tea towels and mugs. They'll be worth money in years to come, I tell ya!

AJ, what would you have done if your wedding day had been on the same day as 9/11, 7/7 or the Indian Ocean tsunami for example? Not let your gets talk about it or would you have allowed them to?

but its probably the way youve said that you want no mention of the royal wedding etc etc, like i said, nothing will be as big to you as your wedding, it does not mean though that if someone wants to check on the royal wedding or football, etc that you can order them not to have a look on their phone, or a tv in the next room, your day will not be ruined because a few people will talk about or look at other stuff thats going on.

the best thing you can do is to not care what else is going on in the world and just enjoy your day, the only way it will get ruined is if you force people not to say or do, its like me being the biggest spurs fan and tellng my mates never to talk or check on what arsenal have been doing and then me getting upset about it because i over hear someone mention them, lets be honest itll never happen.

your day will not be over shadowed just because someone else is getting married.

Honestly, I don't know - but it would certainly have put a damper on the day I'm sure.

No one is disagreeing with the fact that on your wedding day nothing else will be as important to you. I think people were disagreeing with the fact you seem to think that all your guests should feel the same and although Im sure everyones guests think their wedding is an important day it is not the be all and end all to them and you cannot make them have the same priorities as you

O.M.G is this guy for real, all the ash trays removed bar one at the far end, and not sure what he would have done on 9/11 etc, how bloomin petty!!!

Does this guy think he is god or something trying to control other people??

so, no smoking almost everywhere, no drinking incase someone has too much, no stag do.

the venue wont be happy about all the fag ends everywhere, haha

My mum and dad got married on 9/11 many moons before it happened - and it does a little bit annoy them because now every year the news is really negative and they say it puts a negative feeling on the day????? also they know that this sad event triggers peoples memories into remembering their anniversary....

Would much rather share my date with a happy event than a sad one!

i think the point is that Yido said 'as big to YOU as your wedding' - which I assume means the bride and groom. Which of course is natural. But you are coming across as someone who wants all your guests to feel the same by dictating to them what they can/can't say in speeches for example, and getting on your high horse about how nothing else should even come into the equation from your guests point of view. THATS the difference.... that how it comes across anyhow AJ.

I'm not a smoker but a few of our guests were. I would never dream of taking ashtrays etc away from the venue. Surely if the one ashtray/butt box gets full then you will have cigarette ends all over the outside of your venue? I wanted our guests to enjoy themselves and wouldn't enforce such restrictions on them as I think they wouldn't enjoy the day as much and it would be disrespectful. We handed out cigars to our guests in the evening and no one was offended by them.

I think it is preposterous that you would be upset if people spoke about sport/ the Royals etc. At every wedding I have been to a wide variety of subjects have been discussed. You cannot expect your guests just to talk about your wedding ALL DAY. It is very limiting.

Seems to have a controversial statement for every occasion! im beginning to wonder if some are for effect! Certainly makes the board lively tho lol

No.

Smoking is a disgusting, filthy habit and the smell gets everywhere, particularly affecting non-smokers, who are often sensitive to the smell.

It's a smallish garden, and we don't want people smoking near the open windows so the smell comes into the room we're using.

Our rules, our day and all that.

The vast majority of people coming will be non smokers, and also won't be confused in any way that we aren't providing alcohol on the tables (although we are having a pay bar) so you don't need to understand it, just accept that "it works for us".

How will you make sure people know about this?

Well all i can say is thank f**k im not coming to your wedding and i will be very surprised if any of your guests stay longer than an hour if thats the attitude you have?

It'll be in the 'order of service' on the day with all the other necessary timings and instructions, along the lines of "for the comfort of all our guests, we would ask you to refrain from smoking in the garden near the entrances, an area has been reserved for you and please ask any of the hotel staff or ushers if you cannot find it".

Personally I think smoking is a disgusting habit but my wedding day is about our commitment, not me preaching to people that it's bad for them and others!

They won't be allowed to smoke indoors due to the ban so if they want to get cold and wet outside, let 'em, I say! I'd much rather have my guests have a good day rather than be tetchy about not smoking. Similarly, I'll let my guests talk about what they want to. They're people with opinions after all.