Would you introduce your best friend to Hitched?

Nope. I'm selfish and I like having this as my escape from the real world. I'm happy to meet hitched people (and will hopefully get to meet some of the Ashford crowd at some point) but I like being able to get detatched views here and I don't want to share you all with anyone else!

I have introduced an engaged friend to Hitched, but it's not someone I know well. More of a friend of a friend. I'm not sure whether I'd want my best friend on here or not tbh.

I think i have, i certainly know people here who i knew well before hitched, one of my oldest friends in fact can be found on BT but i was here first i think.

Nope.

I don't post often but I still consider it to be somewhere that I can come to when I want escape the outside world.

Yes, I have.

I don't say anything here that I wouldn't say to her anyway. I often recommend the site to other people (whom I'm not so close to) but I don't say what my name is on here and I doubt they'd know tbh.

Not really, sometime people I don't know so well, but I like it just being me and not having to watch everything I say all the time! And then there's the total unbiased side of it, where I can get honest help, and not just the agreement of my mates lol (just realised that sounded b*tchy lol, I didn't mean it like that - honest!)

No, selfishly I wouldn't.

I have infact just got off the phone to my oldest friend and found out that she is 12-16 pregnant. She lost her husband 3 weeks ago and already has 3 kids. I know she would benefit a lot from BT but I just can't, it's my space. I have told her I use a forum that has a baby section and can ask advice and that I'll ask around to get stuff for her but I think I need somewhere for me.

However, if it was a best, best friend who knew all about me anyway, I would do. My friends in real life don't know about my ongoing baby stuff, only my hitched friends do.

I have considered this a couple of times but always came to the same conclusion, no. I like having this place as "mine" in the same way as I was relieved when one of my friends lied to his girlfriend about which gym I go to because he knew I'd hate it if she turned up there. I like a bit of my own space and Hitched and my gym are sacred to me.

Thanks all. I feel a bit better knowing that I am not the only one who wants to keep their internet wierdie friends all to themselves! Think I will hold off introducing her for now.

No way. The husband knows and I don't even like that really! There are some things I just don't tell anyone, even him I suppose, but as he knows about it I can't really say on here either.

Yes I would, and have. I was introduced to Hitched about 5 years ago by my bestest work colleague after she used it for planning her wedding (and she now lurks mostly on BT I think).

I also got my sister to use it when planning her wedding (don't think she looks on here much now though and was too scared of OT anyway ?), and introduced Hoobygroovy to it as I thought a lot of the sense of humour and discussion topics were right up her strasse.

I can't remember whether MrsB and I found Hitched separately or one of us recommended it to the other, but we have an unspoken code of privacy regarding things discussed on here, in that we wouldn't refer to them amongst IRL friends. I would say we've kept in touch as friends much better because of Hitched actually.

I say go for it, especially as you say you'd be comfortable with her reading whatever you ever need to post about ?

I don't tend to let my friends know i come on here. However i have a friend who is getting married on in June next year and so i introduced her to wedding planning. Luckily she doesn't really use it that much. I couldn't expect her to not know my username as for people who know me irl it's pretty obvious who i am.

No i consider hitched to be my place if i ever want to vent about anything so i would not like my friends to see that.

My friend was getting married and i introduced her to confetti,and told her how good it was when i was planning my wedding.(i used it for about 4 weeks until i found hitched).

I introduced my sister to Hitched. She uses BT mostly, but I think she lurks on OT.

I've also told a couple of other people about it, without telling them I use it, or what my username is. I don't *think* any of them have started using it.

2 of my friends hitch, 1 I introduced, and a few people that I know and have realised that I do also have hitched at some point or other. It doesnt bother me too much, but I dont think I would introduce someone that I didnt want to see things I had written.

I also am happy to meet hitchers and have met several, I think because they have already read things about you that other people might not or dont know it doesnt matter if you then talk about other things you wouldnt with normal friends.

Hopefully Unique at Last will not run away and we'll get to meet ?

My best friend told me about Hitched, and I think she now regrets it ?

I have considered 100 times introducing my other friends to BT, especially one who's a DTCER but somehow I can never bring myself to do it.

I had forgotten that my friend (Lumpy) was the one who brought me to hitched, she probably regrets it too. ?

I told a close work friend about hitched when she was planning her wedding and she used hitched right through her wedding planning and having her baby who is now 2. I don't think she hitches anymore though.

I wouldn't tell my best friends though. I like having this "space" to me. H isn't keen that I like to post things on here that he thinks should be kept to myself or us.

Buttons x

No, I don't think I would. No particular reason, and I can't really explain why I feel that way.

However, I did end up setting up a business with two hitchers, and I would now consider them two of my best friends. It's a bit different though, as I knew them as hitchers before knowing them IRL.