Would you invite her?

Simple answer- NO! I wouldnt invite her after all of that!

Shes obviously not a friend.

Yeah ive found that out the hard way! but i need to be careful about this how i approach the subject of what happens when friends realise shes not invited.

I'm sure they would understand, surprising they are friends with her! Just explain to them why. Why should you pay for someone like that to come to your wedding. I definitely wouldnt ?

This girl doesnt sound like a 'friend' at all. If you see the relationship improving dramatically in the future, then invite her along. I cant see this happening, she has hurt you in the past & will cause issues at the wedding so def NO, dont invite.

If your other friends dont understand the situation & think you are mean/bitchy/whatever for not inviting her, then THEY arent true friends either.

Thanks. I guess ive got at least 12 months before the invites to go out and for her to redeem herself! if not then there wont be an invite!

Am sorry to say it but she doesn't sound like a friend to me so NO i wouldn't invite her xxx

It seems that she's not a real friend. You needn't invite her!

Debs I would sever all contact with her never mind not invite her to my wedding. She sounds a nasty piece of work, a true friend would never ever do that to you.

Thank you all for your thoughts, not having a great week as my one bm has let me down too, starting to feel what have i done? altho i know there are issues so i can excuse the behaviour. Its not nice when your two best mates let you down. I always do my best for my mates too! what has gone wrong?

Probably you've done nothing wrong. Weddings tend to bring out the best and worst in people, for some strange reason, and it's better now to find out that the people you thought were good friends are actually a waste of your time now, than with 3 weeks to go and you've spent shedloads of money on things for them to be part of the wedding only for them to drop out.

We had a friend invited to the wedding, who just didn't turn up on the day, no attempt to contact us, nothing. A week later he's posting pictures on Facebook of his holiday in Spain, which was apparently 'too good a deal to miss' despite him having an invite 10 months previously and he couldn't wait to attend. We managed to upgrade a guest to all day to take his place at short notice so nothing was wasted except a place name card.

Needless to say he still hasn't explained himself properly, so it looks like we can save a card and stamp this Christmas.

You only have to look round Hitched, and not dig very far, for many posts of how good friends and close family have 'turned' after an engagement announcement, or when wedding plans begin because they don't think it's the "right" sort of day that you should have, even though it's none of their business.

Don't stress about it. The people that come on the day will be the people that you mean something to, and there'll be more than enough you won't even notice her not being there.

Well put AJ couldnt have said it better!!

Nope.

Tell her to jog on and get a better friend.

Thanks everyone. its true i find out who are the best friends well before and not just before! ive tried some really lovely dresses on today so im trying to decide which one! yes several people have turned since the engagement. its funny how things like that happen by your closest friends. just really hurtful. but time to move on and concentrate on real friends!