Would you say this is rude ? UPDATED

I'd never do that - the sister sounds like a spoilt brat.

They'll look like christmas deccies. I would be a bit miffed if I was the bride tbh.

I'd say it is an absolute no-no. Why would you want to do that to your sister on her wedding day?

Not on at all, is sister jealous in some way?

Would definitely not do that. What is she thinking of?

no that's awful she should definitely not

Totally out of order, I don't know why someone would do this to her sister on her wedding day, screams jealousy to me.

Oh my gosh yes. That is so not on.

I guess if it is an informal wedding and the bride is wearing a normal dress then there is the risk that someone else will get one the same. But the bride's sister getting the same dress is just awful.

Thankyou I thought I was right lol. I don't know why she is insisting on this but having spoken to the mother of both girls this afternoon I can maybe see she is a brat. The mother thinks it is ok too her reasoning is also that the dress will be a different colour. I have seen both dresses and they are the exact same design. The mother also added that most bridal parties wear the same dresses and I said yes I can see that point if the younger sister was a bridesmaid but she isn't. She also said that if the bride is that bothered then she will go to monsoon and buy herself a bridal gown.

Totally rude. definitely NOT ON.

I think it is rude and as bad as wearing white, people will blatantly see it is the same dress, and it will take away the specialness of the dress from the bride.

My she sounds like a delightful woman doesn't she

What a bitch

From the mother's comment it sounds like there's a bit of a family issue over her not wearing a bridal gown. Gah, families!

I think the mother was referring to the sister who is not getting married when she was talking about the bridal dress Zippy. The sister think's it's fine and the bride had begged her not to wear said dress but she just says that you are the one standing at the front getting married what does it matter ?. I can see this getting worse and as I am mates with both of them guess who is stuck in the middle.

Has anyone told the bride? She may not care (though i still think its off)

Is it still a no-no to wear white to a wedding?

I wore a white dress with very small pink flowers on to a wedding.

Good grief. If my sister (not that I actually have one) begged me not to wear a particular outfit to her wedding, I'd go along with what she wanted even if I thought she was being OTT. This sister is unbelievable and it is really bizarre the mother seems to be supporting her.

Totally out of order! Why would you do such a thing? I take it the sister hasn't been married before?

Th sister showed the bride her dress and the colour and the bride is very upset she has given her point of view to her sister and the only pesponse which keeps coming back is that it's ok as they are different colours.

I would be fuming. How can she think that it's ok to wear the exact same dress in a different colour?

If i were you I would speak to the bride and see if she can change her dress and NOT tell the sister/mother.

Can the sister not see that everyone at the wedding is going to be appalled at her behaviour?

It actually can't believe someone would be that selfish. Of all the dresses available to buy why on earth does she have to have the same one????

Its not rude but really odd and slightly bizzare. Its bad enough turning up to an event where someone wears the same dress even if it is a different colour. But the brides sister is way off. Its o.k to wear white to a wedding, but its not ok to wear the same dress as the bride even if it is a different colour.

I feel so sorry for the bride and it's sad as she is now talking about getting another dress when the red one is what she reallt wanted. The saddest thing of all is that the mother of these 2 girls actually pointed the one who is not getting married in the direction of the website where the bride got the dress from. I am thinking it is because the younger one has not been asked to be a bridesmaid but there are none at all as I said it's a very small evening wedding I think there are only 20 guests. The irony is that the bride was just going to go with her partner and the children to get married but was worried about hurting family feelings.

If I were the bride I would say to the sister, very simply, if you intend to wear that dress - don't turn up. And if you do turn up and you're wearing it, then I'm afraid the ushers won't let you in. And I would mean it.

Maybe she is regretting worrying about that now. Can you talk to her? (the bride - it seems the sister is a selfish twonk)

Yes, SOOO rude, a big, massive non no!?

What a strange thing for a sister to do. If its any consolation for the bride, if I was a guest at that wedding, I'd be thinking what a twat of the sister and how desperately sad she must be.

I'd be furious if my sister behaved like that.

I wouldn't worry about being stuck in the middle - I think with behaviour like that, I'd decide I dodn't want to be friends with spoilt brat any more anyway - stuck in the middle problem solved!

I think your (bride)friend should change her dress. I know she shouldn't have to - but there will be comments, or she'll look in the photos, and I think that could upset her.

She should find something hideous and make a show of changing to it, in the hope bratty sis does so too... In fact, she should say look, you're right - it'd be fun to match - but I'm liking *this* now, and I insist you have it too. Picking a colour and style that makes bratsis look awful. Then of course 'change her mind' the day before... ?

I do think she should change - how long has she got?

And yes, it is RUDE RUDE RUDE!

I'd never do this.

What might even happen is that if the dress is non-weddingy, someone else may turn up wearing it! (as well as the brides sister if she goes ahead)

No wrong on all levels. Mother wrong for encouraging other sister to same website & for saying brides & BMs wear the same dresses - err no they most certainly don't! Sister for being a spolit brat. Bride for maybe not standing up for herself but tricky with family politics.

I was upset that MIL2B nearly wore a maroon suit having asked what colour my BM was wearing and being told dark red. Photos would have looked strange for that.

I agree with you Marine girl. But i don't think the bride should change.

The sister should get a dose of truth and you should tell her what cow she's being.

I would do what ATG says. The bride should buy another dress and not tell the sister or mother, then just turn up on the day wearing the new dress. If the sister is doing this to piss off the bride, then it will backfire, she will be the one pissed off and she'll look like a chud into the bargain.

I would also make sure after the ceremony, that everyone knew the reason why the bride changed her dress

How awful.