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Beginner September 2015

Would you travel....

brit, 6 July, 2014 at 15:56 Posted on Planning 0 12

Hi Girls (and guys)

I am in the very early stages of planning our wedding - hopefully July 2016!!

I have fallen in love with a venue... however it is an hour from where we live, I am concerned that guests will not come due to the distance....

my question is has anyone else done this and did most people come or did it not turn out too well?

Thanks Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Helenia, 6 July, 2014 at 18:56
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    Beginner September 2014
    Sarah_88 ·
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    Yes I would travel if I was a guest, if there are hotels nearby (especially if the venue is a hotel or rooms in it) then people have the option to stay over, and an hour is not too far to travel anyway

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  • Chucklevision
    Beginner July 2015
    Chucklevision ·
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    Yes. I can imagine it would be difficult to ensure that every guest only had a short journey. X

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    Beginner September 2015
    brit ·
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    Thanks Sarah.

    its actually on a farm but its stunning, there are log cabins that sleep around 30 people in total that we can hire out at a cost obviously... that we will look to hire for immediate family and bridal party.

    it just concerns me as some people i have mentioned it too have said its a while to travel especially if they only receive an evening invite.

    xx

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    Beginner September 2015
    brit ·
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    Im pretty lucky in the respect that all of our guests minus my H2B parents live in Nottingham - where we live.

    x

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  • Helenia
    Beginner September 2011
    Helenia ·
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    I think to an extent this depends on the attitude/expectations of your guests more than the distance itself.

    My closest friends and family are scattered all over the country, so I have never been to a wedding LESS than an hour away from home, including my own! Even friends who live quite nearby often get married either at our old university or at "home" where they grew up (lots of us moved to London after graduating but originally came from elsewhere). So for me it would not be an issue, especially if there is accommodation nearby.

    If, however, all your friends and family lived in one town and were used to everything happening nearby, it might be a bigger deal to them. You are likely to lose out on some evening guests, but hopefully not too many!

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  • Pipsybus
    Beginner June 2015
    Pipsybus ·
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    I don't think an hour is too long to travel for a full day invite. I'm not sure I would for an evening though. I guess it would depend if there was a cheap-ish hotel nearby!

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    Beginner September 2015
    brit ·
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    Yeah i guess so.

    my family have basically said to me that if people mean that much they will be there.

    I would ideally love to invite everyone all day due to the style of wedding but it physically wont be possible due to budget.

    I really want everyone there who i/H2B invite it just concerns me that people wont make the effort...

    were even speaking to the farm owners to see if people can camp on site that night so they dont have to travel home... there is over 800 acres to the farm.

    xx

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  • InkedDoll
    VIP January 2015
    InkedDoll ·
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    This is a sentiment bandied around here a lot with regard to weekday or distance weddings. It's a nice idea but sadly not true. It doesn't matter how much you mean to people, if they are prevented from coming by work commitments, finances, lack of transport or accommodation, childcare issues, age or disability, then they won't be there. These are all things you have to consider when choosing a venue. We are asking people to travel between 2 and 3 hours to our wedding, but I fully understand and appreciate that they won't all be able to come. It won't reflect on how much we mean to them.

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    Beginner September 2015
    brit ·
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    I fully understand that, and i get that those kind of things may prevent people from coming.

    what i was referring to is guests telling me an hour is too far to travel....

    If it was me and they meant that much to me and non of what you advised had stopped me I would travel an hour to celebrate their special day... even if I had been given an evening invite.

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  • sweetlikechocolate
    Dedicated May 2016
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    I have travelled to weddings much further away when I have been invited to the whole day. Not sure I would travel an hour for an evening reception unless travel was arranged (a friend hired a coach for 48 people which worked quite well) otherwise its quite a cost for transport/hotels for an evening out.

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  • Foo
    Beginner June 2014
    Foo ·
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    Seriously, people won't travel for AN HOUR? Do they never leave their town or something?

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  • Dizzycaz
    Beginner October 2014
    Dizzycaz ·
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    We are asking some guests to travel maybe 5-6 hours for ours but that's because of how our situation is as my fiancé and his family live up in the highlands and mine are in Manchester, most our guests have accepted but I understand it's not possible for all due to cost of travel and hotels if like me they don't drive.

    personally I would travel if there was reasonably priced accommodation nearby but not necessarily just for the evening!

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  • Helenia
    Beginner September 2011
    Helenia ·
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    Could you look into getting a coach/minibus to/from your home town and back? Or perhaps to a closer-by hotel (camping will not be everyone's cup of tea!) I have also seen people put a section on their website for people to arrange to share lifts/taxis, so that fewer people have to be designated drivers and costs can be split.

    I dislike the sentiment of "If they care enough about me, they will make the effort." There are millions of reasons why people may not be able to travel or stay on a campsite, it doesn't mean they don't like you.

    Hope you manage to find a solution!

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