WWYD?

It's a really difficult one, Illi. I'm really sorry to hear that you're in this situation.

I guess you just don't know what's going to happen, and it's hard to know what's right... Have you spoken to her about it? I guess if she wants you to book it, you don't have much choice xx

Hi

I am very sorry to hear about your mil2b. I found when my friends had cancer that they wanted life to carry on as normal, then there was always a goal or event to look forward to, your mil2b is probably focusing her energy on your wedding. I would be tempted to book your honeymoon, there is always the option of moving your honeymoon dates if the worst should happen to her and she will still have the opportunity to share in your excitement about your plans if you book something.

Good Luck in what you decide.

Oh illi..i dont know what to say apart from im sorry

I dont even know how youd bring it up with her but think you need to, if she was so against you moving the wedding im sure shed feel the same about this too

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We cancelled our whole wedding, lost all the money as OH nana was diagnosed with terminal cancer, diagnosed december 31st, wedding was following october, we cancelled as we didnt want to take the chance of anything happening so near the time and then weddings would be the last thing on the family and OHs mind. She actually died 5 weeks after diagnosis and some might say we should have kept the wedding booked but Im glad we never. I wish we had known not to book it in the first place though, after all we did lose a lot of money...........maybe you should wait and tell your MIL that you have both decided on booking a last minute holiday near the wedding time so you can get a great deal, that way your not holding off incase anything happens to her, its for money reasons. On another note be strong its such a hard, horrible time ? x

So sorry to hear that. if the cancer is terminal she will be given an approximate timescale but as these timescales are not solid i wouldnt like to go by it. honestly? if it was me i would have the weddin this year, as soon as possible, even if it meant having a smaller wedding because of finances or something. that way she will be able to see her son get married and be well enough to enjoy it and you will enjoy your day more and your honeymoon. i can understand she is against you moving it but if thats what you chose to do id just sit her down and explain its far too important that she is there and well enough to enjoy it and take some of the emphasis off her maybe, say you wanted this year originally or it makes more sense financially or you are excited that its been brought forward.

if you're keeping the wedding at next year im not sure what id do regarding honeymoon. i would have thought you will get a last minute holiday somewhere just as nice and it might save you some money. that way youcan wait till nearer the time and see how she is. you can still book the time off work and fingers crossed you'll get away when you want but just incase shes really ill at that point, you wont be worrying about as many things. and as for telling her, you could be honest and say why you're doing it or tell her you have booked it when really yo havent or say that you're holding off cos you've been told you'll get a much better last minute deal.

hard decision and my heart goes out to you all

Oh Illi, Im so sorry to hear you are going through this! Is there any kind of insurance you could take out that would enable you to cancel or change your holiday dates without losing your money? If not i think maybe DTTB's idea of saying last minute booking to get a good deal is probs your best option.

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So sorry to hear this Illi. You have a while to book the honeymoon, so I personally would leave it for now and see what happens.

Like Tricks said, you know where I am if/when you need me. Even if it is just to try and distract you by making rood Scrabble words x x

So very sorry to hear you and OH are going through this xxxx

If I were you I would think about going with DTTB's suggestion.

Hope everything works out.

Thank you all for your advice. You're right, we do have a while to book it, so we could leave it until we get a better idea of what the prognosis is.

The problem we face re last minute booking is that my OH is teacher, so we get married just before the summer holidays. This makes it very difficult for us to book holidays last minute, even under normal circumstances. MIL2B knows this too, so would cotton on if we gave that as our reasoning. I don't want to upset her or make her feel like we are writing her off.

Not sure Nabs. I'm guessing not as it would come under pre existing medical conditions?

Can you change holiday dates after booking?

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yes but at a cost!

Thought there would be if they allow it! How much though is the question? Are we talking hundreds here?

We did it the first year we were together as the day we were due to fly Mr Flow ended up having an exam..i think we paid 250 pp to change to later flight!

Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear about your MIL2B ?

If it were me, I would hold off a bit and see what the hospital says about her prognosis, as someone else said. I'm not sure if insurance covers things like this? But you could book and maybe budget for a change in date, just in case?

HTH x

Sorry to hear this Ili. I think I would wait for a last minute ish deal too or wait until your h2b is on half term. x