Hey just looking some advice on a family matter! It might be abit long, but hopefully it makes sense!
Bascially my parents split 6 years ago, after being married for 25 years. It was my fathers decision, he walked out of the family home one night, 6 days before Xmas (nice timing...) and then phoned mum the next day to say he had left her for another woman. It was a very dark time as it was totally out of the blue. After promising to keep things nice, he took mum to court as he wanted everything, he nearly left us homeless after promising to keep the family home, then not paying the bills. Bascially he played really dirty and the court proceedings took a year. He has a problem with drink, and would phone me, drunk, shouting abuse etc etc. I tried to keep a relationship with him, but he always demanded that I excepted this other woman too, and I wasn;t ready for that at the time and after a load of rows and agro, and bascially havent seen him in 5 years. There is a lot more that went on, but i'm trying to keep this short and too the point!
He also cut ties with my sister about 2 years ago after she didn't tell him I was getting married (she didn't feel it was her place.) After a chat with my sister we decided we would like to have a relationship with him as so much has happened to us, EG I'm married, have trained as a nurse, bought a house, having a baby in November etc etc, so I text him. This is how it has gone:
ME: Hi, Its here, would you like to meet sometime?
HIM: Nice to hear from you! Hope you keep well, I think timing is not too good on you, you have enough on. we can sort ourselves out after the birth(he had heard from an unknown source that I was pregnant) . be good until then.
ME: Its just that myself and would like to meet up again and It'll be hectic once babs is here
HIM: Another couple of months won't hurt after 5 years. For your good and the health of your baby.
So what do I do now??! I don't know whether I should be angry that he is accusing me of not putting my babies health first, or whether he is using the baby as an excuse to put off facing us. What would you do next??? thanks so much for any advice!
