WWYD - guest issue

Just be honest. Tell her there are people you would have liked to invite, but didn't have room for. You knew and liked her ex, so were happy to invite him. You don't know and have never met this new love and, whilst you understand her wanting him there, you would be uncomfortable inviting someone you don't know over someone you do.

Perhaps he could come to the evening do? That way you're not excluding him, but you're not limiting your numbers for the day.

Thank you, you have worded it much better than I coudl have done

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Thank you, you have worded it much better than I could have done

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WMS

I think you should Invite her for the wedding and then invite her partner to the evening do.

I agree, just explain and invite him to the evening do. Unless she doesn't know anyone else there I don't see why it should be a problem.

Hey you! How are you? I haven't seen you online much, how are things with the ex now? all settled I hope.

In answer to your post, I'd call her and explain the situation. Are you having more to the evening? if so invite him then and she might give up her place to. We only had a small day ceremony with 40 and people understood fine.

I'm going to be a bit different here!

I had a wedding invitation arrive addressed to me and my ex-partner the day after we split up. It was for about 8 months away. I spoke to the bride and explained the situation. It was a wedding many miles away in Bath and I wouldn't know anyone else. She said to basically see how I felt nearer the time about coming, as to be honest a wedding was the last thing on my mind!

Anyway, a short time later I met my fiance. I asked her if I could bring him as my plus one and she said that it was fine.

Now the point to this rather rambling tale is that putting myself in her place, you did invite her and her husband, and if she doesn't know anyone else it would be in my opinion a bit rotten to expect her to come on her own or give up her place.

I just think that if it was me, I'd certainly let him come!