Hi ladies i need some advice apologies in advance if i ramble or my grammer and spelling is terrible.
I have posted about this in the past but back in January i found out that i have an older brother B and twin sisters S and R ,it was quite traumatic as i have younger siblings aswell a younger brother D and younger sister E who are my full siblings, The siblings that we found out about are our half siblings from my dad who had them before he met my mum .
So D, E and i have had a bit of contact with the other siblings but not much , My older brother B has been in contact with E (who is 14) and telling her that he whats us all in his life and never wants to lose us again , the twins S and R keep messing us all around one minute they want to see us the next they dont.
A little background with my dad , My dad was very young when his ex girlfriend announced that she was pregnant and dad said he wasnt ready so walked away , the ex gf met and married someone else and since then the twins have had a father figure. A few years later dad was in another relationship with a lady called J , dad went to prison for 6 months and when he came out she was pregnant by someone else but dad stood by her and had the baby then went on to have my half brother B , unfortunatly the relationship went south as she had mental issues and dad took custody of brett for about six months untill he went back to his mum. Dad wanted what was best for B and walked away, he meet my mum and she knew all about dads kids and they decided to just not tell us , Fast forward to now , i think dad wants to see B but is scared about upseting D,E and myself. I want him to try and have a relationship with B and dont want to cause any reason for him not too.
So in January D,E and i accepted that there was other siblings in our life now and wanted contact with them , everything seemed to be going ok , all six of us were texting and messaging on facebook everything was fine , One of the twins had mentioned to E about meeting her at some point and the same for my brother D . D,E and i decided that we didnt want to meet them on our own and i said that my sister E was way to young to go alone anyway , so we decided that we would ask B and the twins to meet usall at a local pub, twin R said yes id love too , but two days later twin S told D that she would only meet us just the once and didnt want to tell her kids about us ever , we felt quite hurt by this , that she didnt want to further contact with us . My brother B didnt even reply though i knew he had been on facebook which is what i messaged them all on, so i left it and no real contact has been made between us all.
Last week my mum and dad was driving though there home town and they saw B and his girlfriend , this obviously stirred alot of feelings for my dad . My mum told me that dad wants go and talk to him as they know where he works and lives. which is great and exactly what i wanted.
My brother D was telling me that when ever he messages B he never replies even though you can see he is online ,same situation when my sister BBMs him he never replies and between us we have all said were upset that he drops the bombshell that he and our sisters exist and now isnt interested in having contact with us. Today hubby and were talking about B whiched prompted me to message B just to say hi how are you , but just as i thought i had no reply at all , for the sake of my full siblings and i,i feel like messaging B and saying its not fair that you have dropped such a bombshell and now you dont want to know but im worried that if i do that my dad wont want to go and see him.
So if you have got this far WWYD?? i dont want to do the wrong thing! please help.
