WWYD tell the bride or not?

Oh god what a position to be in, that's hard, probably best to phone H2B as you said and see what he thinks, you don't want to be responsible for her not enjoying it but also you don't want to spoil what may be a good surprise.

I probably haven't helped much LOL sorry!

Nicola x

I wouldn't be telling her, but I'd be raising the issue with the organiser or whoever sent you the details. I would also make a suggestion so you don't just send a negative message e.g. instead of French Maids (which doesn't really sound like xxx at all), could we do monochrome or pink and black outfits?

I agree with LenonLuver definatly..... just to be sure......

BUT If it was me (my hen night) i would probably just go along with it as it would probably be the first and last time i would do something like that and would want my night to be a night to remember and then i just have a few (alot) drinks and thank god im not the only one dressed that way :-) x
That probably duznt help at all.... sorry x

Nic x x

If i was you i would not tell her , she has obviously put her trust in her work friends to sort out her hen party ,and what one person sees as tacky is not in anothers eyes , alot of people on hitched have strong feelings on tacky stuff but to be honest i love tack and the tackier my hen party the better.

Sorry if this sounds blunt but alot of people do wacky things on their hen nights , so just go with it and enjoy ?

x

How well do you know your FSIL? Can you maybe chat to her about the hen party (assume she knows when it is) and what she would hope would happen or what her worst fear might be? Then chat to the organisers as TahDah suggested...

Seems a bit of a mixed bag of activities if you ask me... champers in the park then french maids in the boozer? Do we think 2 different people were in charge of those two ideas? ?

It's a hen night! If you ask me it's supposed to be tacky and outlandish or else it would be another run of the mill night out. Yes it might not be her cup of tea but at the end of the day it should be about having a laugh and having a good night that she wont forget, a theme can make the night! Champagne picnic in the park would be rather dull without anything else.....i say get her a pink or some other colour french maid's outfit to really stand out

After all it is her last night of freedom........

Sorry, but I totally disagree. I would have haaated anything like the French Maids thing, it would have ruined the night for me. Thankfully, my friends know me well enough not to organise anything like that, but if any of them had been thinking along those lines, I'd have been very grateful to anyone who pointed out that it wasn't really up my strasse.

I know that some people will disagree but its not going to be hugely traumatic ahving to wear a maids outfit, they have obviously gone to alot of trouble to try and give her a nice night, if she chose them to plan it then on her head be it. The most I would do would be to e-mail the organiser and suggest maybe toning it down

Thanks for the advice ladies! I'm going to speak to her H2B. If he is worried about her liking it, then I'll suggest something like the monochrome idea (good one, thanks). I agree a certain amount of craziness is necessary but it just doesn't seem her thing at all.

Will keep you updated!

WSS. i would have actually been really angry (and wondered if they knew me at all....) if my friends had organised something that was completely not me, and i wouldn't have had any fun. dressing up as a tacky french maid would not have been my idea of fun in the slightest (plus i had bought myself a kick-a55 dress to wear!)

the point is, everyone's idea of fun is different, and the point of a hen night is that it is the b2b's night - if the b2b won't enjoy dressing up, why organise it for her? speaking to her h2b sounds like a good idea.

i don't get the 'last night of freedom' thing either.... ?