XPosted: Relationships and honeymoon periods

Which film is it S_S?

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Hiya - is the film The Notebook or Elizabethtown?

These films had the same effect on me too and I don't think you are being silly.

I think the 'honeymoon' period after getting married varies, I suffered with post wedding blues for months after but the honeymoon soon sorted it out. We delayed going on honeymoon for 6 weeks as I knew too much time off work would make me fed up too!

Whatever happens after the wedding make sure you both have something to aim for, whether it be planning your first baby, taking up a hobby you've always wanted to do, enjoying lots of holidays or moving home.

A relationship is very much a work in progress and doesn't stop the moment you get married. A lot of people say the first two years of marriage are the hardest.

Don't worry about it...just keep investing your time and love into what you have and you will remain happy.

Yes the honeymoon period at the start of a relationship is exciting and that's why Mills and Boons sell so many books, just because you have a happy relationship doesn't mean you can't miss the excitemant a bit. On the other hand don't forget the crap that goes with it, the waiting for phone calls, the worrying you like him more than he likes you, the relationships that you thought were the one but he dumped you or you had to dump him. There is a difference between settled into a happy relationship with a man you love and settled for second best. Noone can live the whole of their lives going from one relationship to another looking for the excitement of a new romance they just end up on their own.

Enjoy what you have and don't worry.

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Amazing film eh? Its such a heart-warming story. I've watched it 4 times since buying it (only 2 months ago lol) and it never fails to make me cry!

I'm embarrased to say...?

Let m guess...High School Musical? ?

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It's Twilight....? doesn't help that the main actor is so delicious!

...and thanks for making me realise it's all very normal! x

ps Afraid High School musical made me ?

I felt a bit like that whilst watching that movie. I sat with baited breath throughout most of it wishing them to kiss - ahh... i can't wait til the second is released!

Plus the actor like you say is delish! ❤️

Hey Summer Sparkles

I certainly don't think you're alone in having those feelings from time to time, but I also think 3d Jewellery made some really valid points - there are also a lot of negative sides to those times at the beginning of a relationship or when you start seeing someone, and I think when you're in an established relationship and have been together a while you tend to forget that and look back on those times through rose-tinted glasses.

At the same time, I do reminisce too and part of me does miss it - it is amazing at the beginning when you're desperate to see them constantly, can't take your hands off each other etc, and undoubtedly for many couples that does cool down a bit after the relationship has been going on for a while. I know it has for me and my H2B, and we've been together 4 years, living together for 2, so in the large scheme of things it's not a desperately long time. At the same time though, it's now amazing in a different way. We know each other inside out, love each other despite all our flaws ? and we are best friends too (sorry for the slush overload!)

I don't think you'll ever find a 'perfect' relationship - after all, life isn't a love story or fairy tale, you have to work at it, and I'm sure you're more than aware of that. Sometimes it's hard to have that fiery passion or pure lust for each other, for example, when the washing machine's just broken and leaked everywhere, or you've burnt dinner, or you're scrubbing the bathroom clean! ? But I just wanted to let you know I do think it's normal to be having thoughts like that, especially when planning a wedding - it's a big commitment and I think it's healthy to assess your relationship and make sure you're doing the right thing. But as you said in your post, you're absolutely certain you want to spend the rest of your life with him - so you obviously are making the right choice.

Hope some of that makes sense at least!

Omg i love the twilight series!!! i got so sucked in to the love story!! your not the only one so don't worry. once you've read the whole series (4 books in total all excellent) read the host after. its by the same author and the love story in that is just as addictive

It is a brilliant film! My Dad watched it on the return to his trip to Canada, on the plane and told me about it (whilst weeping!) he also said he cried on the plane......then I had to wait for it to be released here and everytime I watch it I cry from title to credits! lol

Others are:

Just Like Heaven,

City of Angels,

A Very Long Engagement,

Big Fish,

Philadelphia,

to name but a few! - just thinking about these films now is almost setting me off!

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Oh and I absolutely ❤️ The Notebook! But haven't seen Twilight. Am intrigued now though!

I've not seen that film so I can't comment on it but if I think about whether I'd want to be out there meeting someone again, etc and having that first kiss again then my answer would be no. Having been with my OH for 12 years I still enjoy kissing him. I like that he knows what I like and I wouldn't want to be with anybody else. Our relationship is much better than it was when we were 17 and I think it will keep getting better after we're married and as the years go by.

That feeling of waiting to be kissed and holding hands for the first time is what I remember from being young teenager. I suppose if I hadn't met him so young I might feel different?!?!

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? When I read it back I thought it sounded a bit puke-inducing. Oh well, it's how I feel.

My OH actually said to me the other day while I was hoovering "God I fancy you!" so I must be doing something right?! ?

Ooh La La, I'm with you on "A very long engagement", I love that film, it's got everything!

Ok a newly married perspective here.

My BM (who got married 2 months before me) told me the day before our wedding that getting married is great but being married is even better ....... personally I think she was sooooo right. I know this probably sounds odd and mushy etc etc and I didn't think I woiuld say this, but for me it does feel different. I think I feel even closer to my OH now and many more things which I won't go into as I know you girls don't do too much fluffiness on here. We have only been together just under 2 years (18 months of which we were engaged for) but we are definitely having a second honeymoon period, probably because all the wedding planning stress is out of the way. I haven't yet suffered from post wedding blues (though may be different in a few weeks). At the end of the day I think there are probably many peaks and troughs throughout a relationship. There are still times when you can have those exciting feelings you experience at the start but just in a slightly different way as both of you and your relationship evolve.

Anyway I think it is pretty normal to be thinking how you are. At least you sound confident and happy that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I Felt exactly the same after reading the books (They are fab) there are things ahead that remind us of the love we have and excitement really does get boring if it's all the time, once in a while it's nice.

Nothing to worry about about, you just wish you were a teenager having 1st love again, oh don't we all sad old dears lol

BTW Eclipse is the best one of the series I think!

I too just finished the twilight series, and indulged in a little fantasy of a perfect immortal god adoring and protecting me! Lol. However, by the end of the series their relationship develops too and moves on. I watched Vicky Cristina Barcelona the other day, and one of the characters says, "the only romantic love is that which is unfulfilled". I think it's easy to miss that first love spark, but really who would want just the first part and not the last? I'd rather have love that goes beyond romance, and is fulfilled! Having said that, I will still indulge in the occasional Twilight fantasy...

Nothing wrong with missing that anticipation as it is lovely. But there are downsides to that as well, like you don't know each other properly. For us, whilst we both loved that honeymoon period i hated feeling like i didn't really know him properly. I felt like that until maybe eight months in when we both moved away to uni and started arguing etc, esentially the end of the honeymoon and the beginning of our nice serious relationship.

I think that things are so much better for us definitely now we've been together longer. we know each other and we enjoy each others company even more now we're both relaxed.

Don't worry about missing it. Just think there will always be nice stuff in your relationship anyway and whether its a honeymoon period or not doesnt matter!

I think it's completely normal to reminisce about that initial oneymoon period, it's such a nice time. But although it was lovely with "the one", what about all the wrong ones? My OH and I talked about this before our wedding, yeah it would be nice to have all that excitemet but when I think back honestly, before I met her I had some horrendous experiences. Seriously, my ex was crazy!

About whether there's a second honeymoon period after the wedding, I think it depends. We didn't really have one. Our relationship is the same now as it was before, but that's ok because we have a great relationship. For us the wedding was never a big romantic gesture. What a wedding represents for some people, that commitment and bonding, we'd already done many years before. It was purely a celebration of that commitment, and it was a way of gaining legal protection. But I think that's more to do with our situation - it was only relatively recently that we got the right to legally commit to each other for life, so our attitude was that that legal right was really important to us, but we didn't need that piece of paper to cement our relationship. It had been kept from us for so long, other people finally deciding that we were worthy of it wsn' going to make a difference to us. Does that make sense?

Sorry, seem to have gone into a bit of a rant. But the remeniscing for the beginning is totally natural, I wouldn't worr about it. Just keep living vicariously through books and movies!