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Oh I'm sorry Jaz, but is it an oversight? Has someone just left you off the email list and no one's thought to mention it because they all assume/know you are actually invited?

This happened to my ex and me once. I met one of the girls who was on the periphery of our group of friends in the supermarket and she asked if we were going along that night (it was to see a band in a pub and everyone bar us had been asked). We decided to go anyway and made sure we got there first, leaving the car (which they would recognise) right outside the door. The surprise on their faces was a picture and well worth it. ?

? I hope Dolly Rocks is right.

It happened to me,i got a text message about hen night arrangements and changes.This was a hen night i was not invited to.I replied and said i was too busy to go and hope that they had fun.

Maybe people have just assumed you are invited.

I left a job 3 yrs ago, and my friends (2 of them) organised a collection and gift thing, and a coffee/cake presentation to present me with the gift. Only 8 people turned up, and they thought it was someone else's leaving do - someone with my same name, and who wasn't leaving anyway ?

Minor update, didn't have time to reply yesterday and have now received other group emails about it but still have no info on where it is etc and not sure how to reply. I don't think this is the first time it's happened and really feel it isn't an oversight and now I'm being included in emails because someone's put their foot in it.

Hmph. Do I reply as if "ooh hadn't heard about this, great" or "I have no idea what this is about, but hope you all have a nice time.."?

I would reply in the latter, if you were genuinely invited then someone will surely say so?

I meet up with a couple of friends from school occasionally, one one such occasion my friend told me that she was meeting with a few others from our old school that day, I said 'great it would be nice to see them'. A time and venue was arranged, when I arrived everyone was already there. So we were in a resturant and no one was ordering any food which I thought was a bit odd, so I went ahead and ordered mine. Turns out they had arrived earlier and already eaten and told me to come later. I was mortified and sat there forcing down food that I really didn't want anymore. They said they hadn't seen each other since school and wanted their own little group to catch up. Fair enough that I wasn't part of their gang at school, but they could have at least told me what was going on, and arranged to meet me for coffee afterwards or my friend could have just rescheduled our meeting.

I'd go with the "I have no idea what this is about, but hope you all have a nice time.."? but then probably add on a snidey '....whilst I sit at home on my own you fuckers' ?

Aww, i hope it's just a crossed wire.

I had a class one last week - a colleague was trying to get a table together for a ball - and invited most people except me (he hates my H ever since he (my H) set fire to the dinner bill for 20 that he and his tight-wad Mrs were trying to split into nano-pennies ("ooh, well, he only had 2 glasses of wine, but you had 3, and i didn't finish my pudding and she did, and my starter arrived 45 seconds after yours; so you should pay 45% more service...... " so H snatched the receipt and shoved it in the candle ? (it was the moment i fell in love with him all over again) - but we've not been asked out since ?)

However, after confirming their poxy ball tickets, another colleague pulled out and then he was trying to sell it on to me in desperation - i was like 'Pfft, no, ta!' (Find another after-thought!)

Some People!

There's nothing worse than feeling left out of everyone else's party. My worst one was when I was 18. My then boyfriend and I were going on holiday with some friends. At the airport, waiting to leave, one of the girls was talking about her birthday night out two days before and saying thanks to everyone for coming and for her presents. My ex was looking decidedly shifty. When she said to me that it was such a shame that I wasn't there, I apologised and told her that I had no idea it was her birthday, let alone any knowledge of a party. Turned out that feckwit ex has decided not to tell me about it, as he 'wanted to see what it felt like to have a night out' without me. Nice. We split up that night. When we got to our destination. With two weeks on Corfu still to go! ?

My best one was when I was culled my a group of my best friends just after another of my (separate from the group) friend had died and I was quite delicate. There was a big brithday for one of them including a night out I hadn't been told much about and a smaller gathering at her house. Off I trotted to her house party, handed over a gift and then sat as EVERYONE discussed their menu choices for the big night out I hadn't been invited to. I then got told I could tag along after the food but not the main bit as there wasn't enough room in the "taxi" which turned out to be a limo, even though another friend's boyfriend of about one month (who noone had known up until that point) was going in the taxi.

I was really annoyed and actually upset by the whole thing and have barely spoken to any of them since and have no idea what I did to annoy them ☹️

Maybe I'm spotting a trend! ? to all the others too ?

It's a horrible feeling ?

I had one this summer when I saw photos of the majority of the NCT group I was in together for a summer party and we weren't invited. Sort of makes you wonder what's wrong with you doesn't it.

Hopefully it is just crossed wires jaz!

It happened to me a few years back the girls organised a day/night out and as I was off the day it was organised one of the girls was asked by the others to call me and let me know the details. A few days later, after the event I bumped into one of the other girls who started questioning me about the "party" I'd been too. I told her I never went to any party and she said oh x said you couldn't make it to our night out as you had a birthday party to go to!

Turned out the girl who was asked to contacted me decided not to bother, as she didn't want me to come on the night out. I have since moved to a different coutry and no longer really speak to any of them now, just the occasional exchange at birthday's etc.

Also H brother and his fiancee don't invite us to anything they have (house warming party, his 21st birthday party, Christmas party etc etc). We did however get an invite to their engagement party last year only to be told it was being held in the only place in our town that does not allow children and as the rest of the family/friends were going too we had no one to look after our (then) 6 month old son, who as it turns it is the only person in either family under 18yrs old. If they want to behave like petulant children despite both being in their 20's then thats fine, but we will always behave like the adults we are and have never forgotten to include them in anything we do, which they always accept and come too!

Jaz, I never knew you lived in Northern Ireland!

I'm in Bangor - we should start out own wee group?

MH - I also know the niggling feeling. Especially then as I feel there must be something seriously wrong with me!!

Do you want to cull me too ?

That would be nice, the part before the culling anyway ?

Oh, please do this. Anybody who I would want to class as my friend would find this funny & hopefully apologise for the oversight. If you've intentionally been left out, sod them. ?