Young Bride - Anyone else find...

Ignore them i say! i used to get it for having children younger im 29 and we have 4 children all planned and now we're getting married! sod em i say! =)

Yes, absolutely.We have 2 children and have been together nearly 5 years now. Our families don't think it's young as both our sets were younger than us when they tied the knot. It's more people who don't know me very well, especially if they don't realise I already have kids. I'm 23 and OH is 26.

I get the same, OH and I are both 23, will be 24 when we marry and we are only the second out of all our frieds (and school year group!) to get married, however we do seem to have started off a bit of a trend with people booking weddings for 2015. We have a 1 year old and have been together 6 years this weekend, we rent a lovely house and both have good jobs and so I dont see why people feel the need to judge or try to put us down. Our close friends and family are all that matter to me and they are all really supportive. Its unfortunate that we both look quite young, and not our age, and so when we went to view venues etc I felt some were judging me. I also tried to make myself look older by wearing smarter clothes haha which sounds silly but I certainly felt more confident when discussing things with suppliers etc.

As far as im concerned if you love each other and feel ready then stuff the lot of them!

Ignore them.

I was 22 when I got engaged, im 23 now, will be 24 when im married. I dont listen to other peoples opinions about age, because I know who I love, and I know this is the right time for me to get married.

So I would say ignore them, your not too young

Apparantly the average age for getting married is 30 - but it really doesn't matter how old you are!

There was another thread very similar to this a couple of months back - I just don't get these people that have opinions about what's right for your life, especially when, like you say, they don't even know you that well.

I think as it's becoming more of the norm for people to get married when they're in their late 20s/30s, people judge you. But if you go back 2 decades it would have been very much the norm for someone in their early 20s to get married.

Basically, what I'm saying in a roundabout way (sorry turned into a little rant) is that you should ignore them!! Only you know what is right for you and if you're happy - no-one else can decide that for you!

Yes I totally agree! We are both 20 now will be 22 when we marry but will have been together nearly 7 years when we marry! I've learnt not to care as most people in my year at school have a least one child by now! I don't get why that's more acceptable than marrying young? If i said I was pregnant no one would say anything but now I'm getting married they say lots of negative comments!

we've learnt not to care, this is what I want to do and I know who I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with so why not? We also have a mortgage together so it's not like we're still at home with no jobs etc!

Dont listen to them, I know it's hard though! I find most people who say negative things are jealous or divorced! Some people don't understand I don't want to travel or sleep around?!!

x

Just out of interest,,, (if anyone knows )

Is 30 the average age of people getting married for the first time or does it include people getting married for the 2+ time??

I was 23 the first time round and despite it not lasting, no one seemed to think I was too young at the time and age was nothing to do with the split either.

If it feels right , it feels right !! what gives anyone else the right to judge anothers relationship anyway?

I personally would have been nowhere near ready for marriage at 22, but if you think it's right for you, then it shouldn't matter.

I get the 'young' thing every day professionally. I find it incredibly annoying, and when other staff/professionals make the mistake of thinking i'm a student, rather than just apologise and drop it, they invariably labour the point about how young I look and how they can't believe i'm qualified. ?

Having said that, I haven't had any comments since we got engaged about us being young - we are both 25, will be 26 when we get married. I think the issue seems to be with how young I look, rather than my actual age.

I don't think 22 is all that young, and certainly don't feel any differently now than I did 3 years ago. Had OH proposed 3 years ago, I wouldn't have felt too young...he just kept me waiting ?

I get it from randomers that I look too young to get married. I just ignore it and carry on. I'm 23, 24 next week!

If you have supportive friends and family that's all that matters

Ignore them, my OH's parents got married around that ageish. Also it's not like you're 18 and together for 2 months, something which I could understand more. Plenty of older couples get married who have been together for much less than 7 years, so don't even worry about it, it's super sweet that you're childhood sweethearts!

I have had comments that I am 'too young' we got engaged me 24, now 26 and him 27, will be 29- hardly children!

I get it all the time and I'm 28!! I went to book my hair colour the other day and the hair dresser said no way can you get married you're not old enough! Nice to look young but I was a bit like it's none of your business!!!

Yes, unfortunately am also 22 and will be 23 when we get married. We'd have been together for six years by then so we're hardly rushing into it. As Loves- Young- Dream said, people don't seem to understand that I don't want to sleep around. Have also been told by someone at work that I should be out drinking with my friends at my age and that I'm 'too grown up'.

I do go drinking with my friends and see no problem with being 'grown up' as long as I'm happy. I'm failing to see what I'm missing out on by being engaged. But at the end of the day, it's mostly people who don't know me very well so they can say what they like

I'm 21 and OH is 19! - a toy boy :p

We got together when he was 16 and will be getting married in 2015 when he is nearly 22. People do think we're young and this bothers OH quite a bit but I do tell him not to worry too much about it!

If it feels right for you and your OH then don't worry about it

Thanks for the input everyone. Sad that so many people find the same thing, but nice to know others are in a similar situation to me in that you are also getting married in your early 20's xxx

Heya I am 22 as well, I am getting married this year after 8 years together. All I can say is as longs as your happy who cares. There are people a lot younger having babies and getting married after only a few months, so really dont worry xxxx

We got engaged a week before my 25th birthday and I found a few of the ladies older than me at work made some comments about being me being too young to settle. OH will be 29 and I will be 27 on our wedding day so not even that young, we will also have been together nine years. As an observation, the people who commented to me on this were either single or divorced. I got quite a few "don't make the same mistake I did" comments, frustrating as they only know me professionally not OH and I as a couple. One lady suggested I should go and sleep around a bit as otherwise I would regret it when I got to her age. It is so strange what people think it is ok to say!

Me and my fiance have been together 4 years, lived together for 3 of those and get married next month. He is 21 and we will be getting married a couple of weeks before I am 21. We haven't had any negative comments. Both families are incredibly supportive of us and even if anyone was negative it wouldn't stop us doing it! If you're lucky enough to find the person you want to be with at a young age then that's great, you can prove people wrong by showing them that it works.

Don't worry about what other people think, just do what makes you happy.

We will be 23/26. The amount of people who have asked if its a rush job due to me being pregnant (some have even asked my mum this!), or how they wish they didnt get married when they were in their 20s is ridiculous

No I am not pregnant.I'm in love! Why wait til I'm older just to marry the same person'I'm doing what makes me happy now ignore the haters

Luckily we haven't experienced any negative comments, tbh it was more people saying so when is the big day then?! due to getting engaged at the age of 19 after being together 3 years.

When we get married in 14 months time, I will be 23, other half 24 and would have been together for 8 years and engaged for 5. We have lived together pretty much since day 1 and have a mortgage together.

Only you know if it is right for you, don't listen to other people's comments and judgements....who's place is it to say you are too young or too old to get married?!

The majority of people are not ready for marriage when they are your age, I certainly wasn't. I'd just moved to London and there was a lot of fun to be had before settling down! I met my OH when I was 27 and I was 32 when we got married.

When people say "aren't you a bit young" what they actually mean is they felt too young at your age to get married.

You are 8 years younger than the average age of a bride so annoying as the comments might be, the fact is you are a young bride.

I was engaged at 22 and married at 23. The only comments we got were along the lines of "about time too." If people aren't supportive then, as long as you're happy, just ignore them.