Asking For Money Instead of Having a Gift List

We're doing this too. There's a couple of websites that specialise in doing this with examples of what to write on invtes. Travelbag, honeymoney and whattogive are a couple I know of.

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Do not ever use a money poem!

If you want to ask for money just state it as fact and dont be all twee about it. When we got married we asked for donations towards our honeymoon. This is what I put

Rather than gifts we would appreciate it if anyone that wants to give something donates towards our honeymoon fund, this can be done either by cheque, paypal or anonymous cash donation. For those who would prefer not to donate to our honeymoon we do have a small gift list available on request.

I don' t think there is anything wrong with saying you'd prefer money or vouchers but its how you do it. We didn't put anything in our invitations and if people asked we said we were hoping to buy a new fridge and wardrobes so something towards that would be really appreciated.

Friends of ours this year set up a list with honeymoney which went down really well with people as you chose what you were buying the couple rather than just giving them money so you knew whether you had bought them a romantic meal, suitcase, contribution to a trip etc.

Please please don't send a money poem. They are awful! Two of my friends sent them out with their invitations and I cringed!

The only thing I do find rude with regards to gift/money requests is sending them out with the evening invitations. I think waiting to be asked is better (we didn't even send them out with our day invitations).

I agree with Zoe. We aren't going to mention anything in your invitations about a gift list but if people ask we are going to be honest with them and say we have everything we need but money for upgrading seats on the flight would be appreciated (or something like that). If we book with a travelagent instead of online we might see what they can offer so that people can donate money without us knowing the exact amount.

Please don't use a money poem......

I'd just either be straight about it and use an example like Zoe, or leave it until they ask you. I won't be asking for anything in my invites as I find it a bit rude, but if anyone asks, will ask for vouchers or cash for the house.

Personally to ask for money in a wedding invite is rude. People will naturally ask what you want so I would wait until they do.

? exactly what I was thinking - summed up in a smiley!

Is this a wind-up?

Hi, Thanks for all your replies - you've been a real help!

No more required thanks, as I think we've decided not to even ask - I personally always thought gift lists were a bit rude too - I guess it depends on the generation!!

Cheers again!

? where did you get that simley?

Although can I also just add, I've heard of these, although haven't used them myself: http://www.moneymoon.net

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.. can only assume the wee hoose under the bridge needed to be hoovered or something ....

I've had two invites recently and they both had money "poems" (I use that word very loosely!!). They make me cringe.....

One was just for the evening too!!

I hate them! In my opinion it's rude to ask for presents, never mind money. We won't be asking for anything.

C x

I agree totally about not having money poems - my bro just got his invites done and they have included one which made me cringe and kids and H2B burst out laughing. If you want to ask for money then i think you should just do so - i would be far less insulted by a direct request then a poem that pussyfoots about x

WEES - ask for money by all means, but don't camp it up in a poem. it's not sweet, cute or funny, it's lame and downright rude.

and if you think gift lists are rude, why would you even consider a money poem?!?!

We would rather have money as a gift since we've ben living together for two years and have everything we need, however i feel really rude asking for money so we're not mentioning anything about presents in our invitations until people ask us, then we can tell them that if they want to they could donate to our honeymoon if they like!

Do what we did - say nothing!!

We didn't have a gift list or ask for money or vouchers. We just sent an invite.

Your guests are not stupid, they will be aware that you have been together x amount of years and living together for a good few years too.

If they're stuck they'll ask you or your parents. We didn't want gifts or money as most people had to travel to Scotland for the wedding, we felt this was enough, but when we said to people who asked what to get us/what we wanted they said oh no we can't do that.

We ended up with a collection of gifts, money and vouchers, which we were very grateful for.

Please don't insult the intellegence of your family/friends by including a twee poem about money. Its rude to ask for money/vouchers/gifts anyway. Would you send a smiliar poem/list with an invitation to a birthday party?? Erm no so why do people feel the need to do it for weddings??

Spring - Fantastic smiley - where on earth do you find those?? If seen loads of great ones used on OT and Melancholie has some fabs ones too. I'm sooooo jealeous?

We were honest about asking for moey in our information sheet which was written like an FAQ. We had a couple of people buy us gifts but most people were more than happy to give us money as that's what we wanted - far better than getting 6 toasters that you have no need for. The money we received in gifts paid for our honeymoon and a small part of the wedding. If you are going to ask for money, be honest and grown up about it. Poems are vile and a bit childish imo.

I love it when this thread appears (and let's face it, it usually does every now & then). I guess that must be the evil streak in me, but I'm a bit disappointed that there aren't any poems that have been suggested <spam ducks>

Here you go ladies http://www.freesmileys.org/. Go mad!!

Aaaw thanks Spring, I'm not jealous no more?