At a bit of a loss

Mel, I am so sorry to hear this! I too lost someone this week and feel at least some of your pain. I think you have plenty of time ahead at the moment and would recommend you need to take some time to grieve your nanna, it's so recent and whilst it can be good to keep your mind busy it's also good to let go and just feel. You can pick up wedding planning again in a couple of weeks once you've calmed down a bit emotionally. R u close with your fiancé's family? I tend to keep people at arms length and then struggle to let go when I really need to with people who aren't my immediate family, but always feel better if I do. I really hope the rest of your planning goes well when you decide to continue with it, and again I am so sorry for your loss, maybe do something nice for the memory of her/them, if you're artistic you could do some art like drawing or painting, get photos you like of them enlarged for yourself and for the wedding so they're there, do you know of any music they liked? Perhaps that could work as entrance or exit music? Good luck with everything ❤

I'm so sorry for your loss :'(

My fiance and I are getting one of these to commemorate our lost loved ones on the day, maybe its something you could look into aswell? x

Loved Ones in Heaven Wedding Memory Table 3D Centrepiece With | Etsy

I am sorry for your losses. I lost my Dad aged 10nandnitbis so sad to think he won't be with em on the day, so I feel your pain. Take your time and only think about planning 2hen you are ready. We are having a small table in the corner of the room with the below on.. We have painted pebbles white and written the names of all those we have lost on them and will put them on the table. The table is alos on or table plan as gone but not forgotten, a small touch to honour those no longer here.


https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/715606889/silver-effect-in-loving-memory
I am also getting a bouquet charm with my dad on like the one below, that could be something you may want to keep your mum close

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/755968497/walk-with-me-today-dad-memory-bouquet

I hope you can manage to feel better soon, they will be watching over you on the day. Love and hugs xx

Sending hugs - facing a wedding without a loved one is so hard. Give yourself some time off wedding planning - go back when you feel ready.

I agree with PPs that it might help if you can think of ways to incorporate tributes to your mother and grandmothers in your wedding. We both lost our dads before our wedding, and we picked music that was special to them. I incorporated some of my dad's favourite flowers in my bouquet and also got a bouquet charm with his photo on one side and his writing on the other - https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/737853030/christmas-charm-personalised-gift?ref=yr_purchases. And since the wedding, I've worn it as a pendant.

View quoted message Thankyou all I think I'm definitely going to take a break and pick it up again in the new year. We've paid for ceremony, the reception and registrar so I think we can pick the rest up on the new year. Thanks again for your advice xx