Hello, I am really having a horrible dilemma. It's keeping me awake at night!
My best friend got quite poorly about 5 years ago, and hasn't been the same since. She loves me and I her, but I have taken the role of being a bit of a carer (from afar) since then. I worry about her a lot, but she doesn't have the capacity to be there for me. She tries, but she has too much of her own going on. She is on a lot of medication which I think affects her too. She hasn't been to my new house, I have lived in for two years. And she has only met my OH 3/4 times in the 4 years we've been together.
I love her so much, I want her to feel special and know how much she means to me, but I know that if I ask her to be a bridesmaid, she won't be able to contribute much in terms of planning, tasks etc. It might actually make me sad to see, and I might feel that I have to look after her. My OH is worried that I'll spend the day and the hen party worrying about her. I'm doing it now!
Has anyone out there experienced anything like this? What can I do? Before you say, 'ask her to do a reading' etc. I have thought about this but her illness wouldn't make it practical. She is very quiet / shut down in social situations, so I can't ask her to speak in front of that many people. Thanks so much for any advice you can offer xx
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