baby shower - gift list

I don't believe in baby showers in the first place. Putting 2 gift lists in is quite frankly shocking! I wouldn't go but if I had to I would give them something off the list.

Gift list?? Wow!! Nope, not heard that one before!

I organised one for my best friend recently. Personally, I'm not so keen on them, but she really wanted one so there we go.

We skipped the nappy games, nappy cakes, nappy whatever and just had a get together with some cake and chat. It was actually quite nice and I regretted telling her that I'd be annoyed if she ever organised one for me if i get pregnant. Haha!

A few guests asked me if there was a gift list so this seems to be expected.

Kochanski - I also feel a bit uncomfortable buying a gift for a baby that hasn't arrived and tend to buy something for mum...

I don't personally have a problem with baby showers. It's a nice way to get your group together before baby comes.

I've never seen a gift list for one though. I think that's normal for America though!

Reminds me of the Sex and the City where Carrie sets up her own gift list as she wasnt marrried and didnt have kids. After at a baby shower her shoes got stolen so she sent a girlt list to the mother just for the shoes!

I think they are silly, you should just buy what you want if you want to buy something and then I would only buy once the baby had arrived.

Yuk I hate baby showers & don't get the point of them over than to guilt others into buying all your baby sh*t for you-The gift lists I get have bigger items on so I refuse to buy off them. I usually make a hamper full of Johnsons products, sudocrem & happier - at least then I know it will get used!

Gift lists ... here's something new to hitched ?

Sorry, I'm being facetious ... no, it's not cool to make a list of things people should buy for you.

Also not a fan of the stereotypical baby shower with all thinks nappy related. However I have been to a couple that were more about giving the mum to be a final bit of girly fun and pampering before the madness of motherhood (tea, cake, pedicure - cos she couldn't reach her own feet! face masks and head massage), those were lovely, so if I'm lucky enough to be in that position one day, that's the kind of shower i'd appreciate.

Not a fan of gift lists at the best of times, but for a baby shower I'd be miffed at sending one. I've always given a gift for the mum to be at a baby shower (but then that's the style of shower I've been to). I'd rather wait till the baby's born before buying a gift.

Plus what's the etiquette - if you've given a gift at the shower, do you have to give another one when bub arrives?

One gift list is bad enough but two?!

My friend threw me a surprise baby shower and is said I wasn't doing any of that! it was actually quite nice seeing lots of friends, eating lots of cake and the only 'game' we did was to decorate bibs!

I have only been to one or two baby showers and I take a hamper of gifts for the parents to be! never received a gift list though!

even with weddings I tend to ignore them and get something more personal!

I've only ever been to one baby shower and it was just a buffet with us sitting round having a chat. I do not like the sound of nappy games! lol I'll go but I'm not buying anything off the lists because it's all clothes and I cant see the point.

The first one I went to there was a game where you had to taste the baby food and guess what it was (yuck), we had to cut a piece of string at the length we though would go around the mum's bump and we had to write some advice and put in an envelope and she was supposed to open it when the baby was born. I wasn't a mum at the time so had no advice so I probably but something stupid like 'always have a bottle of fizz in the fridge for those tough days!' ha ha ha!

Exactly this. It is very grabby. I wouldn't stick to the list though.

I just don't see the point. Help.

I had a surprise baby shower thrown for me and I hated it, it was only made better by a visit to A&E... I don't get why people decide to have them then force a stupid gift list filled with overpriced luxury items upon people they invite because they are too tight to buy it them self.

This is how I view them.... A chance to all get together and see mum-to-be before the madness begins!

One of my best friends had one, her mum organised it. It was nice but was more of a get together with lots of cake, wine for us non preggers and tea/coffee.

she didn't do a gift list or ask for anything. I got her a nice pair of earrings anyway. A gift list is quite demanding, so expecting gifts before the baby is born and then everyone will feel obliged to buy again once baby arrives. Hmmmm not my cup of tea

This is how I originally viewed them & maybe I've been unlucky but the one's I've been invited to have been more about presents.

The first one I went to I was given a list of things( but not a formal gift list) that I had to buy from & report back to the organizer to prevent duplication

Another I couldn't go to & despite giving my apologies I was still sent the gift list which actually only had expensive items on.

The third was actually the best one as no gifts were requested ( I put together a hamper) & it was actually about catching up etc.

My friend had one recently & we were facebooked about 3 weeks before and advised that we had to buy the gifts in store at john Lewis because they wouldn't arrive on time if ordered online. On the actual day there was a big present opening session & we all had to have our photos taken with our gift & the mum to be. There were about 50 people there.

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Luckily with the two that I've been to they haven't been all about the presents and neither have had gift lists. I wouldn't be happy with one that had as I do think it's cheeky!

I despise baby showers- whats the point apart from getting a double load of presents from everyone? planning shitty games with nappies and chewing a baby out of an ice cube- hideous

There isn't even usually any wine- waste of a Saturday afternoon IMO.

Gift List- as ever = rude