Bad dreams

That’s so stressful! I’ve had bad dreams, but mainly ones where I can’t get to the wedding. Eg I’m in the hotel but all the corridors are miles long and the place is like a maze. And by the time I get outside it’s too late too get married.


My fiancé and I both had bad dreams for a couple nights one week. We both felt better after talking about it, and were able to use that conversation to work out exactly what we were worried about. Once we’d worked to at out and started thinking about how to fix those things we both stopped having stress dreams! Hope this helps!!

Unless there are warning signs about your fiance that you're not telling us, then it's probably just a natural anxiety about the change. It is a HUGE commitment, quite apart from any anxiety about being the focus of attention for the day, which can also be quite stressful if it's not your thing.

No he's never once been abusive so it's nothing to do with that. I think it's just stress but it's so traumatising- third night in a row now. I've tried talking to him about it (he's currently in Afghanistan so time is limited) but I don't want to make him think I don't want to get married. I never remember my dreams either so this is obviously playing on my subconscious mind more than I realised...just not sure how to make it stop 😔

Gosh that must be so awful for you! I'm sorry you're dreaming these things. I have a lot of bad dreams when I'm anxious and stressed so I get it!

Something that helps me, which is entirely against sleep advice but here we go, is to fall asleep watching something comforting - maybe a show you've seen before so there are no surprises, a favourite childhood movie, etc. It might be that you're thinking about wedding stuff before bed, and that's stressing you out, and your sleep brain is translating it into this awful nightmare - so sometimes distracting your brain not just before bed but right up to those immediate moments before you fall asleep with something that's light and fluffy can help.

Good luck x