bad In-laws

*husbands parents even!

I haven't had to go to quite this extreme but I don't really talk to my in laws about wedding plans. Every time it comes up his mum will be panicking about something random that is either totally beyond our control or ridiculous (like being able to get shoes that fit). And she's worried about how much it'll cost us, keeps suggesting not inviting certain people to save money. I've had to tell her that as we are paying for the wedding then we'll spend what we want on what we want. It's so difficult with in laws I think, but you need to do what is best for you.

It's a really difficult one. It might be really awkward and uncomfortable but I would really recommend putting your differences aside and rising above it if you can; we only get one family. My fiancé has unfortunately lost his parents and as much as they angered me at times, I am absolutely gutted and heartbroken that they can't be involved in our day. Even if they would make me roll my eyes and drink a little too much on my wedding day I would give an arm and a leg to have them there for him. Try to talk it out, get everything out in the open and compromise where you can xx

Hi!

I completely understand how you're feeling as I am in a similar position! I sometimes think parents make it obvious they have an issue with their childs partner and forget that it isnt about them, its actually about their child getting married and starting a new life!

My partners thoughts on our situation is his mother is always trying to play victim and likes to have drama going on because otherwise her life would be very boring (she doesnt work and all her children are grown up and left home). Unfortunately she was like this when her other son got married and i was desperate for ours not to be the same.

In all honesty talk to your partner about how you feel and see what he wants to do. I have told my partner i never want to come between him and his parents and i truly mean that, but it has been left in his court for what he wants to do. Currently his parents are not invited but i have left it open for them incase he changes his mind.

My life has been soooo much better since I no longer have to deal with my MIL. I have my DH relay any messages I have for her and that way nothing gets crossed in translation. So my point is: your not alone with the crazy in-laws and maybe you just need some time apart to allow the situation to calm down.

View quoted message Thank you sweetie! X

View quoted message Ours seems to be the opposite! They’d like people at our wedding that we don’t want there & have offered to pay. It’s tough, but hoping we will middle through without a major fallout x