Best Friend missing wedding

Hi,

I can see why you might be upset, especially if she's said she's fine about sharing her wedding anniversary. Having said that, if you're that set on the date then you might just have to accept that it's also their first anniversary and they likely envisioned their own plans. It's a shame but do you really want someone there who will be wishing they were somewhere else?

I can understand why this would upset you. I get that it's their first wedding anniversary so would want to celebrate but if that was the case then she should have told you that when you checked with her. You could politely remind her that you did check with her first and she was fine with it and that you went ahead with the date because she said it was fine. Other than that all you can do is express your disappointment to her that she won't be there and leave the decision to her. She might change her mind after her own wedding.

Aww, this is sad I can understand why she would want to celebrate her first anniversary, but does she have to celebrate on that exact weekend? She will have a lifetime of anniversaries to celebrate on 'the right day' in the future, but you only get one wedding day. If she can't nudge her first anniversary celebrations back or forward by one weekend to make room to attend your wedding day, I think that's a shame. How many of us have had a milestone birthday fall on a Tuesday or Wednesday and had to spend the 'day of' at work, and had to wait a few days until the weekend to celebrate? It's not unusual. If she'd always planned to be away that weekend, she should have told you when you first asked her about it so you could have chosen a different wedding date.

I agree with LucyJo, it'd be such a shame for her to miss it. Hopefully once she is married & out of the whole wedding planning bubble, she'll reconsider & realise she's got lots more opportunities to go away to celebrate her anniversaries.

I can't think of a nicer way to celebrate a first anniversary than being at my best friends wedding- I'm so sorry your friend doesn't feel the same way ☹️