Best Man!!!!!!

Hello!

? Welcome to hitched.

Don't be dismayed that no one has posted back to you, this manly forum is quite new and not as well known as wedding planning (WP), i would copy and post your concerns etc. on the wedding planning forum, we do have a few chaps around.

We're all very nice and won't bite!

As for your post...

The BestM speech is about your life together, silly things you've done, memorable things..when he was there for you. It doesn't have to be full of jokes it's just a summary of your brother for the guests and to congratulate him and his new wife.

The stag do can be pretty much anything - activity days which inc. paintballing, quad biking etc. plus a night out. There are loads (and I mean loads) of companies that can get you good prices for these things whereever you want them ...either UK or abroad (but this will probably restrict numbers due to money at the mo).

Good luck

It might be worth you purchasing a book such as this if you're unsure?

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/212172/The-Best-Man-Wedding/Product.html

Apologies, it's a Confetti book - don't banish me to there!!!!

There might not be a rehersal dinner as that's more of an American tradition. We didn't even have a rehersal the night before (couldn't get everyone together and the venue was unavailable the night before)

You may have seen the tabs along the top of the page "Venue, Planning, Stag and Hen and Speeches". If you have a look round there it might help. Also your local library might have books that you could look at before shelling out cash..

Good luck, and enjoy yourself!

J

I thik you are suppposed to compliment the b'maids too - I read it somewhere.

good luck, and avoid mentioning ex girlfriends and such like!

Yes, for the stag party of my brother's, we had planned to get Tuxedo T shirts which were similar in design and color. We had ordered for about 15 of us and how we looked on that day, all alike, and very difficult to distinguish! We ordered the stuff from the websitehttps://www.greenturtle.com/Funny/Humor/Tuxedo-T-Shirt-1207/ and the fun we had on that day was something one can never forget in life.

Pipearl

Yes, for the stag party of my brother, we had decided to wear Tuxedo T shirts and ordered the same from the site http://www.greenturtle.com/Funny/Humor/Tuxedo-T-Shirt-1207/. We all looked alike and the surprise and curious looks just took our spirits too high. We had fun and took pride in replying all who were asking us about the shirts.

Pipearl

Hi, I was talking ot a male friend last week who got married last November about Best Men and he said that his Best Man was so good because he was there to calm his nerves, know where he was supposed to be at what time and generally organise him around the time of the wedding. Along with the general stuff of speeches and stag do.

Hi christopher im jen. you should offer to help where you can with everything. your speech should come after the grooms speech. u should introduce the groom to the brides side of family, if u plan on including funny/rude stories just bear in mind the grannys and gramps that will may not wish to hear such things about grandghildren. u should also read out any messages from family that can not b there u should also comment on how the bridesmaids look.

u are responsable for the groom thats on the stag nite. DONT do it night before wedding or the bride WILL kill u.

make sure the ushers know there duties on the day, make sure the groom arrives in plenty of time and is dressed corectly. look after any payments that needto b made on day such as ceromny fee etc, look after the rings, announce the cake cutting if there is no toast master. go easy on the alcohol until after this as it is supprising how it will affect u if u r nervous. head up look to back wall of room and speak loud u b fine and goooooood luck. xxxxxxxxxxxx?

You most definatley need to help him out as much as possible and also help the bride!!! my partners best man has been great as has given me lots of info about things that would make his day special e.g inviting old friends he hasnt seen for ages and booking a super car to take him to the venue, have a look at Special Day Cars

Just don't let the other guys strip him naked. that's my fear!

In my opinion, Best Man is the top job at a wedding, that is if you are a complete control freak like me?

You will be the invisible glue holding everything together and everybody from the Vicar to the Venue manager, the photographer to the DJ or Band Leader will come to you to find out if everything is ready.

Then you get the good bit and the most important bit of embarrassing the groom, that is the key point of your speech and if you nail it then it is all people will talk about all evening.

When planning your stag do, although you're supposed to organise it, make sure your groom has input, I've been on too many crap stag do's where afterwards the groom has confessed they didnt really want to do what we did!

Hi Christopher, try not to stress. Here is a basic list of Best Man duties that give to my Brides and Grooms which may help. Obviously you can decide between you which you will be required to cover as this is just a guide. Hope it helps and good luck.

- He plans for bachelor party with groomsmen and friends.
- He pays for his own attire.
- Attends ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
- Helps the groom dress and gets him to the church on time.

- He pays the clergyman on behalf of the groom and bride.
- Signs and witnesses the Marriage Certificate.
- He holds the Bride's ring until the ceremony.
- Supervises the groomsmen.

- He acts as the host, welcoming the guests at the reception.
- He is seated at the table of hour with the bride and groom.
- Is photographed as part of the wedding party.
- He offers the first toast to the bride and groom.
- He dances with the Bride after the groom and both fathers.
- Dances with the matron of honour
- He is responsible for packing the suitcases into the honeymoon car.
- Any tickets, keys etc are in his safekeeping.
- Helps the bride and groom depart when the night is done.
- Collects and returns all formal wear rentals on time.
- Arranges transportation and drives the couple to the hotel or the airport.
- May receive a gift from the groom.

This is really good advice. They arn't having a reception do because of the time that they will be getting married so really it will be the ceremony and then the night do.

I keep asking him if he needs me to do anything but he just says no.

Hi Guys,

We are currently working on a news primetime series for Sky One called "The Psychology of...".
For one of the shows exploring "The Psychology of Laughter" we wish to follow a Best Man (for a December wedding) as he writes his speech for the wedding. We will help him in the process with a psychologist and perhaps a comedian. It would be one days filming prior to the wedding and we would send down a small, unobtrusive crew to film the speech at the wedding.

I just wondered if any of you Best Man may be up for this?
If so could you please email: ************@********.*** or ring ****.

All the best with your weddings,
Carbon

I think you should keep yourself prepared (duties and responsibilities of the best man) just in case you realize at the eleventh hour that you are expected to give a speech. Leagh has posted a nice outline - that's pretty much what you need to follow in short.

I would say the key ones from the list are:

Got exactly the same problem,lol. i havent got a clue about writing speeches, im useless in front of people, i might hide,lol

got exactly the same problem,lol.

i havent got a clue about writing speeches, im useless in front of people, i might hide,lol

You most definatley need to help him out as much as possible and also help the bride!!! my partners best man has been great as has given me lots of info about things that would make his day special e.g inviting old friends he hasnt seen for ages and booking a super car to take him to the venue, have a look at Special Day Cars

If you will put in one anecdote about the groom that is often sufficient.

Hey,

First of all the thing you need to do is keep calm lol.

As a BestMan you have to on the run up to the weddding remember to go get your suit fitted and make sure groom does to and ushers make sure they know the times and places for these bits.

Of course the stag do which am sure you'll have no problem organizing you've prob already done it in your head if not started looking into it (dont do it 2 days before or the night before because he'll prob still look rough and be lacking in sleep).

On the night before keep the groom at your house or hotel so he doesnt wake up same place as he bride. Take him for a one to one drink to congratulate him just the one (it'll take his mind off the day ahead but Dont get plastered).

On the day make sure you have all the button holes for groom yourself and ushers. Spare black socks as someone ( ushers or groom) will think it doesnt matter to turn up in white when you might be able to see his socks when he walks. Make sure everyone has cufflinks and looks smart. Have the one small Miniture drink to calm his nerves. Talk to the groom and keep him calm. Make sure you know how you are getting to where they are getting married.

When you get to the place make sure the usher knows there jobs. Talk to family members and guests until its time to take your position.

Stand by him at the alta make sure you dont forget the rings.

At the dinner make the speech not to short not to long i'd go for about 5 mins ish. As he's your brother you can add a few comments or stories from when you where young. How he met his now wife. Towards the end Congratulate the bridesmaids onhow lovely they look and what a good job they have done. Say your proud to be standing by your brother on this special day and ask everyone to raise there glasses to mr and mrs .....

Your pretty much free then but you may want to start the daning after the first dance with a bridesmaid as it encouirages others to get up and dance.

If the mr and mrs are getting driven away remember to decorate the car.

sorry this is so long but hope it helps. let me know if there is anything else

xxxx

Make sure to include complimentary lines in your speech particularly for the Bride and her family, also say a few flattering lines about the Groom (he is your best mate after all), and keep your Best man jokes short ideally a few one-liners sprinkled throughout your speech will work better than one long joke.

Have a wee look here... the hitched's best mans guide.

https://www.hitched.co.uk/planning/roles/roles_bestman.aspx

should keep you right there!

Good Luck to you man...

Make the majority of your best man speech personal anecdotes about the groom and at least you're then on the right tracks.

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