Yep, 2 weeks before the wedding and he cancels. Aside from my parents, he was the first person to know about the wedding. We bent over backwards for this guy, we were letting him stay at our home, we were going to feed him for free, the only expense he was going to incur was his transport. We have been asking for months for him to book tickets to avoid any sudden hike in prices, everytime he told us he would do it and everytime he procrastinated. I always had my doubts about him coming, he's the most unreliable person I have this misfortune of knowing, hence why we badgered him for so long to buy the tickets. That would have been a shred of commitment to the wedding. But no, everything in his life is more important than his best friend. Every phone call throughout the last 5 months has been ignored, not returned until HE is good and ready, every text message ignored and then replied to days later when it's more convenient for HIM. Everything has been about him. I tried to take a back seat all the time, I didn't want to get into an argument with OH.
Yesterday was the big wedding shopping weekend, my mum, dad, sister, OH and me piled into the car looking forward to an exciting day, the day when I was getting my dress fitting and bringing my dress home, we were buying OHs suit, picking up my beautiful flowers, it was going to be a big exciting day. My dress fitting went fabulously and later in the day I wrote a Facebook update for my family, mere minutes later and OHs mobile rings. The second I heard who it was my stomach plummetted because I knew exactly what the outcome was going to be. OH was gone ages so we all went to find him, he said that BM said he didn't have enough money to come anymore. Didn't have enough money.....this comes from the man who spent over £700 on a motorbike 2 days ago, a man who travelled all the way to London on Thursday to see a gig, a man who travels to London fortnightly to see his stupid slut of a girlfriend. I seriously broke down in tears. Some of you may remember that most of OHs family cancelled on him, his mum is the only immediate family coming to the wedding. And now, his best friend let's him down. If there is anything in this world that angers me the most it's seeing the people I love get hurt. As we were in the middle of Burtons there wasn't much I could do so I put on a brave face and carried on with our day.
When we got home we sat together and I got OH to relay the conversation to me. Basically because of some storage charges for his bike it has wiped out all of his money (he only got paid yesterday) and so he doesn't know for sure if he can make it but he would call us next week to let us know. This...was ridiculous. He honestly thinks he's important enough for us to wait a week for him to make up his mind, he seemed so blase about the whole thing, not even thinking for a second how much planning had gone into his place at the wedding. You know the big kick in the face? Those concert tickets and the train tickets to get him to London were booked 2 months in advance. He was happy enough to plan in advance for a stupid concert but not for his best friends wedding. The fact that we looked on national express and saw that he could get a return for £13 and he claims he can't even get that small amount of money together. He has an endless social circle and a large family and so we both found this unbelievable. OH called him and the first thing that BM says is "make this quick, I'm busy." Is that honestly something you say to your best friend who you blew off earlier in the day? A huge argument ensued, OH is not someone who ever gets angry and so BM felt threatened that he was not in control of the situation. He argued with him for ages until OH said to him that he was no longer welcome to the wedding. Oh...then how the conversation turned. Suddenly BM says that 5 minutes after the phone call earlier in the day where he said he probably couldn't come, he had managed to borrow the money off his brother and had booked the tickets. Now I'm a very observant person, put it down the amount of CSI games I play, but things just did not add up. I let OH end the call and then posed questions to him. IF he had managed to secure the money after calling us and had booked the tickets then why hadn't he called us to let us know? IF he had booked the tickets then why wasn't it the first thing he said when OH called him later in the evening? It was only when OH said he wasn't welcome that he said. OH sent him a message on Facebook, impersonal and cold, exactly how he always seemed to treat OH. Our suspicions were pretty much confirmed when the reply was accepting and dismissive.
I'm glad we hadn't got around to buying him a gift or making him a place setting. OH ended up asking my brother, at least he cares about the both of us. He's shown a constant interest in the wedding. I'm glad this whole thing is over.
