Best man disaster

Sorry this has happened to you. Annoyingly I’ve found sometimes people don’t tend to realise how important a wedding is to someone until they get married themselves and realise how being helpful is well.. helpful!
I think it would sound dramatic if you were to ‘take away’ his best man title but maybe you could take the stress of having him as your best man. I’d have a general chat with him about doing a speech and say you’ve been chatting with your family and your dad (or anyone else you want) would love to do a speech and you don’t want too many. See if he’d be ok not doing a speech and you don’t have to be worrying about that on the day. If he’s not super passionate about it you’ll gauge that from this conversation and can even say you don’t want him to do something he’s not super interested in and say you’re not offended. It’s rubbish when someone lets you down but I feel like that’s the best way to still be friends but relieve the expectations. Annoyingly you won’t see him in the same way again but weddings put a spanner in so many friendships and not just because of the typical bridezillas, sometimes people aren’t who you thought they were. Keep the day focused on you and your wonderful bride to be, she’ll never let you down so don’t be worrying about anyone else

My fiancé organised his stag himself, and didn't get much help from his best man. It's disappointing but sometimes people don't step up or take the opportunity to give you a great experience. On the other hand my bridal party has been brilliant and organised my hen for me so I just have to turn up! We aren't going to rock the boat by asking anyone to stand down from their role, but I think you should if that's what you want to do and you can live with the potential consequences of that. Although if your stag is now sorted and you aren't bothered about a speech it might be worth just saying that you aren't having speeches rather than taking away his title. Some people just aren't great at organising. The main thing is to make sure you aren't stressed out on the day.