So we have 18 days left to our wedding eeeeek? But we have been have issues with our best man. So we have two. My brother and my OH best friend.
My brother had been fantastic. He's been doing everything he can to keep our stress levels down, whereas my OH best friend hasn't been there at all!
When we first announced our engagement and asked him to be our best man he was with his current girlfriend who lives a fair distance away from us. 3 and a half hours away I think. When we first spoke to him he said that he will be there for us. He will be there when we need him and he will put us first, but he hasn't.
When we asked him to come and get the suits he said that he can't because he is with his girlfriend, so we rearranged, and then he said he couldn't make that date either because he was with his girlfriend. He wanted us to order the suit for him, we said we couldn't because we didn't know his measurements and it can fit people differently. I gave him the product code and said that he needs to get this one. He waited 3-4 weeks until he got it.
We then started speaking to him about the stag night. We knew he was going to a festival so we changed the date, when we spoke to him he said that he can't make it because it's the weekend of his girlfriends birthday, but i don't think it is her birthday on the weekend I think it's before. I understand that he wants to see her but the reasoning that he gave was because if he didn't see her he wouldn't get any. So apparently that's more important than his best friends stag night.
Also he isn't going to be there for the wedding rehearsal because he is at the festival which is fine we knew that but he said "I've done it before so I know what to do"
He came round over the weekend and I asked him if he's taking OH and my brother to the church so they can all go together but he said there isn't room in the car because he is taking his mum and girlfriend, although it's a 5 seater car. I then asked if he is still going to be at the house with OH and my brother to support OH on the morning, but I didn't get an answer.
whenever we try to talk to him about the wedding he either ignores us or changes the subject. We can message him but he will read the message but does not reply.
My OH is now starting to wonder if he made a mistake with his, and wants to say something to him, even ask him if he wants to be best man. But is worried with it being so close to the wedding whether it'll cause an argument.
sorry it's long but any advise would be great 
