Evening all,
I have a bit of an issue with my best man and are thinking what the best course of action should be and looking for some advice from people outside my close family.
My best man is someone i have been friends with for over 10 years and went to university together, when i asked him to be my best man he seemed genuinely pleased i asked him and was happy to do it.
He was put in charge of planning the stag party but unfortunately completely messed it up by booking a triathlon the same weekend which he failed to tell the rest of the guys on the stag until it was too late to change the dates due to everyone else availability, and instead of cancelling he went ahead with the triathlon and we all went on the stag without him.
In the couple weeks up to the stag i was quite frustrated and disappointed but just accepted it and thought it was just a mistake and as long as he does a good job on the wedding then i'll brush it under the carpet.
There are a few guys on the stag do who were friends with the best man but they had a falling out some years back and never patched things up. I thought the stag would be a good opportunity to restart the friendship, but his actions made them even more distant now. My fiancee has a similar situation with her friends and they are back to being friends again.
However in the following days after the stag he didn't say anything to me about how the stag party went or if we had a good time, etc.. not even a text to ask if i enjoyed. Maybe he feels embarrassed that he messed up the stag doo but think it's just common decency as a friend to ask how it went.
At this point i'm seriously thinking of dropping him as my best man as i'm concerned if he will do anything else to jeopardize the wedding and just doesn't really care. Although he still is saying he wants to be best man.
I am due to meet him next week for a catchup and not sure wether to tell him he is no longer the best man or give him the benefit of the doubt if he shows he really wants to be the best man. I need to decide soon so i can give his replacement time to prepare as the wedding is only a month away.
If you have some advise on this would be much appreciated.
