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Best man suit - who pays?

Jack, 29 July, 2021 at 13:26 Posted on Wedding Attire 0 4

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Been asked to be best man. Was asked if I can pay for my own suit due to budget etc.

I said yes. Then bride and groom asked if I can find a grey suit and sent a photo. Initially I said yes but now I’m a bit frustrated by it. I don’t really like the colour, so I’ve chosen something grey but a lot lighter than what they’ve asked for.
I’ll let them know shortly but do you think I am being unreasonable. I feel if they are going to ask the best man to pay for his suit, they can’t really dictate on the colour or which suit it is, as after all I’m doing them a favour. I’ve also spent a lot of money on the groom for the stag do and ensured we all covered him.
They’ve also asked everyone for a monetary gift for their first home…
In the UK as I know things change from country to country

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Latest activity by Annet, 23 May, 2023 at 20:45

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Jack · 29 July, 2021 at 13:31
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Sorry not sure how to edit the post but really… I know they are going to complain as I won’t be a near enough colour to the groom… does it matter? I think if it does they should pay as I need to pick a suit I’ll want to wear again..
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Sarah · 29 July, 2021 at 14:20
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I don’t think you are unreasonable choosing something you like if you are paying it turns in toa tough one as they probably want a certain aesthetic for their day.
You say you know they will complain, I was wondering if there are any other people getting suits so groomsmen or dads? If there is and you are all getting your own suits then they really can’t complain and none of them will be the same just similar.

If they don’t like you choice I would say they need to offer to pay all or at least part of it, the other option you have is to sell the suit to recoup your costs after the wedding.
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Ani · 2 August, 2021 at 16:19
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My partner was a groomsman at his friend's wedding two years ago and the groom sent them all a link to the suit he wanted them to wear, for them to purchase themselves. It was affordable (Matalan) but good quality, and everyone matched. It was such a good idea that we are going to do the same for our wedding next year. It is their day, if the suit isn't too expensive you should wear what you've been asked to wear. This happens with bridesmaids all the time.
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Shannon · 6 August, 2021 at 17:24
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I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. We will be paying for FH best mans suit because FH chose him to be his best man. Same with my Bridesmaids and MOH. If you're paying for your suit then you should definitely get a say, it wouldn't be fair for them to chose your suit which could be out of your budget. If they don't like it then I would suggest them paying towards the suit they want you to wear.
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