Hey all,
I'm getting married on 29th August and my stag do is this coming Friday. I had everything planned pretty much, because the best man was a bit slow on the uptake.
I'm of a more traditional vein, and i'm a shy person, I don't like a lot of fuss, and I really don't drink much at all.
Therefore, I had organised to go for a meal in Shoreditch at a decent steak restaurant, followed by a booking at a local blues club. Nice, simple, quiet. I was even prepared to have a few more beers than usual and stay out beyond 10pm (usually i'm fast on by 9.30)
I got called in by my best man for a 'pep talk' today, stating basically that he's changed the plans, i'll have to be prepared to get humiliated, and to just take it in jest. I know that this is seen as the done thing but I really do not want to take part in what he's suggesting which is "go to a few places" - meaning strip joints - and that I'll have something to wear which will be non-negotiable.
What can I do? The idea of getting dragged around strip clubs makes me feel physically sick, I really do NOT want a hangover the size of cornwall, and what's more - I really really really want to just sit back, and enjoy the bands playing with a few beers and some good friends without having to watch my back for something awful to happen.
Even worse - I suffer from depression, and I'm afraid that they'll inadvertantly trigger a depressive episode which I will not be in control of.
I don't want to say no and cancel the whole stag do, but likewise I don't want it to turn into something worthy of an ITV documentary.
Any ideas or help would be really appreciated. I'm currently very worried and need to find a way out of this.
Thanks
