Best mans girlfriend.

Personally! if she doesnt know anybody i would try and make room for her. id feel pretty awful plonking her somewhere with ppl she didnt know. we are quite lucky as my cbm is my brothers girlfriend and bm is my brother so they will be sat together.

Do you mean on the top table ?

Yes or i suppose you could move the bm?

Yes i could always seat them near to the top table but not on it , thanks.

Why not invite her on your hen night and then sit her on a table with some of the girls she'll already have met? I wouldn't sit her on the top table ? at the end of the day, the meal is only for a short while and I'm sure she's adult enough to cope with chatting to some of the other guests. Also there were quite long gaps between courses at our wedding so the BM can always mingle and go down and chat to her. She'll be fine, don't get too stressed about it.

She does know my brother a little but he's going to be sat with a couple of his friends (males) & they can be a liitle roudy although i've asked him to behave?.

I did invite her on my hen night but they were on holiday.

I wouldn't sit her on top table, realistically she's a grown woman so should be able to socialise with other people.

Are there any friends of BM & H2B coming who are bringing partners you could sit her with?

My H2B has been a best man twice and I have been sat with people I don't know on both occasions. I had a great time, so don't worry about where you sit her. I would never have expected to be on the top table.

My brother is giving me away and I invited his girlsfriend to my hen do. She is sitting with the girls she met at the hen and seems pretty happy about this.

Don't stress about this one!

My pal sat her bridesmaids bf on their top table (which was a round one), even tho he was an usher too. I felt sorry for her two brothers (also ushers) who were shoved to the back of the room. I dont think he needed to be at the 'top table' anyhooo, i digress....

I would place her near the top table so she can see her fella, maybe on a table with some of your other closest pals..

There's no reason to try put her on the top table, just use your judgement and put her with people you think she may have something in common with. As the others have said, it's not an uncommon situation and she should be able to find something to talk to the people at her table about for the duration of the meal

I'd be putting her with people you know will be friendly - or other similarly 'unconnected' people.

I do understand her feelings though - I'm due to attend a wedding next year where MrKJX will be BM - so I will be sat in a suitably 'lowly' place - with the kids to look after! Until I got over myself, it felt a bit daunting!!

Thankyou ladies , it's getting uncomfortably close now & i'm stressing over no need to stress things .

In my opinion, the top table should be for key people of the wedding party. You should not be sitting there 'by default' because you are someones partner.

As others have said, she is surely okay to sit and make conversation with people she doesnt know for the duration of a meal.

I was the BMs wife at the last two weddings we went to and I was sat at the top table. I was quite surprised as I actually knew lots of the other guests very well.

H seems to be best man a lot and I'm always worried about who I'm going to end up sitting with. It's horrid being the best man's wife, especially as at the last wedding I was actually 7 weeks pregnant but we weren't telling anyone and I just wanted to be looked after - pathetic I know.

Realistically how long is the meal for? 2 hours? Sit her at the table thats nearest to the top table, as someone said shes a grown woman but saying that its not nice spending a wedding on your own.

I'm sure you've sat others with consideration to who they are next too, so do the same with her, she is your friend after all.

Make room for her to be near her other half, some people love meeting new people and others dont, make sure you know which one she is before you jusr plonk her somewhere.

I do agree with most people that the BM partner should not b on the top table but I do have to say that Mr Cav was a BM recently and I knew no body from the wedding so I was on the top table which I was really pleased with ? and so was Mr Cav as it meant i was there for his speech whoch he was really nervous about so mayb something to take into consideration?? would BM b nervous? if so would having partner next to him help to chill him out?

I have probaly just made Mr Cav out 2 b a rite wimp but he isn't honest .... lol

What ever you decide I am sure it will b fine

Sarah xx

It is a tricky one and I think depends on who else is on the top table, how long it is, who else she knows etc.

My sister and I sat each other as BM on the top table with our partners even though neither had a "wedding role".

H had 3 best men, 1 single, 1 married whose wife sat with all our other joint friends who we see all the time and the other had a newish gf who we only invited in the evening as they got together after we'd done the numbers, we'd only her once and she didn't know anyone else at the wedding.

IMO either sit her on the top table or near it with other singles.

HTH.

Two of my friends are coming i think i will seat bm's girlfriend with them , as they are both chatty girls & she has met one of them but doesn't really know her.

The meal is actually a hot buffet & shouldn't take that long.

Thanks for the suggestions ladies.

Our BM's girlfriend will sit with whoever we put on her table and i def wont be the top table! She should be mature enough to be able to get along without her partner for the few hours they will be seperated x

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Would you split up say an aunt and uncle? or any other couples???? Just a bit odd that you should write about being mature with a reply like this.

A wedding is a happy time, to be with the ones you love....... its only a couple hours after all

To be fair - yes i wouls expect a couple to understand this. If my uncle was my H2B's best man - i wouldn't expect my aunt to be placed on the top table - nor would she expect to be seated on the top table - which is a table for the important key people in the wedding party.

I have been BM on two occasions and sat on the top table - i never once expected my partner to be added to the top table a he was a guest and not a memer of the weeding party. Waht i was trying to say is that i wouldn't put my BM's girlfriend on the top table even if she asked to be. A few hours isn't too much in my opinion to make your own conversations with other guests.

Personally I would spend a meal without Ads if I was cbm and they wanted me on the top table. Its one meal, he would enjoy meeting new ppl and It's about the couple that get married. Im spending the rest of my life with him, dont need be attached to him at someone elses wedding!

Does the cbm have a partner? If so how about sitting her with him on a table with some ppl you think they would get on with?

People often assume that I'm very outgoing and can get on with anyone, but I get really anxious if I know I'm going to be in a social setting with people I don't know well. Usually, I'd get on fine in the end, but I always have that fear that I won't just before. If I was going to a wedding where I wasn't sitting with H2B or friends, I'd find it really quite stressful even though it wouldn't be obvious to others and I definitely wouldn't say to anyone other than H2B!

I think you need to check with your BM how his gf is in situations like this. If it's going to be hard for her (like it would be for me), then sit BM on a different table with her. If she's quite confident and gets on easily with people, then go with the idea of sitting her next to the 2 chatty girls she's already met.

My H2B was best man recently and I was pleasantly surprised to find that I was sat next to him on the top table as were all the BM's and Ushers and their partners. (Bridesmaids were with family). Both times I've been a Bridesmaid, I've been sat next to him too - which was nice!!

O/T but my dependance on H2B when we're out is quite ironic really given that I met him at a Glastonbury board meet (yup, got my man off the internet! Shh... don't tell my mother) where I went totally on my own and knew nobody. I was practically sh**ing myself!!! Had to have a double at the bar before I went looking for people and so nearly gave up and went home.

Im also so confused topic. Im 17 and my boyfriend is 20 but his best friend is getting married next year and he has been asked to be the best man. I dont know anyone who is going to be there and as me and him have only been together 5 months im extremely nervous about being around so many people ive not met (including his best friend who ive met once in person) so I feel like my anxiety is going to be a massive issues, my boyfriend says it will be ok but im not too sure and I sort of feel like im intruding on the wedding by going even though ive been invited...