Hiya
We're getting married this year, and my FH has a 20yo lad and me 2 teen girls. We're involving the children in the day with special roles, one of the best man and 2 bridesmaids to make them feel included and part of the day, but wondered if anyone had any ideas about symbolic ways to "unite" our blended family?
It's a civil ceremony at a Vineyard, not a church wedding, we've seen sand pouring, candle lighting, Celtic rope knotting (we're not Celtic) but nothing really stands out-bit worried about gimmicky things, just want a simple gesture.
I'm wondering if maybe including wording in my vows, (about acceptance, blending , joining) somehow but I can't seem to get the wording right? Or by including the kids in the prep, hen/stag dos, wedding hair/MU, dress shopping etc it's enough....I would just like to find a way to say how I'm not just marrying my fella, but will be there for his son too, and acknowledge his official role as step father - although we've been together 6 years and the girls have lived longer with him than their own Dad so they've thought of him as SF for years! My issue is that SSon (who moved in with us 4 years ago) has always pushed me away and at times been quite rude, he was constantly let down by his mum and has a few issues against woman, and its a defence to push away, but deep down he's quite insecure. So I want to say something to reassure him that I'm not taking his Dad, but gaining a step son, but not in a cheesy way, something reassuring and inclusive?!
Does anyone have any ideas, or suggestions please?
Many thanks!
