Boyfriend wants stag weekend but complaining about taking time off for honeymoon

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I'm doing a BA and we are getting married on 12th May. We are delying the Honeymoon by ten days for me to finish my coursework and exams for the trimester. There is no way I could relax on Honeymoon knowing that I was going back to exams and other deadlines - I would have to spend half my time studying.

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Have you asked him why hes not worried about taking time off for the stag weekend but is for the honeymoon? I understand hes got work but like you've said, you've compromised a lot. Its your day too. Sounds like you need to be a bit more upfront about how you feel with him.

Good luck!

Hi there, thanks for your post. Can I just ask (politely) why you chose your wedding date during a busy study time? We chose ours because we thought this was the best time during the MA and the worst time would be towards the end in September. BA's are structured somewhat differently to postgrads in terms of workload. Are you both having long weekends away for your hen/stag during this time too or are you doing this earlier at all? Lots of factors combined together with this that leave me unhappy with our situation.

Hi HayleyMay,

Yes, I have tried from many angles to raise this issue. I think it's unfair that I'd have to delay the honeymoon whilst he has a weekend away before the wedding too. He is not questioning this weekend at all. If he was saying to his mates the stag would have to take place much earlier or be a night out I'd understand. But when he says this is a crucial time of year and needs to delay the honeymoon but not the stag I'm not feeling okay about it. I just wanted to know if any one else would feel like this. It's not eh fact he has essays to write or the fact he says he wants a delayed honeymoon; it's the fact he has said he wouldn't enjoy it if we went but yet doesn't do anything to rein in the stag before the wedding. His friends will be organising and expecting debauchery. We are both in our mid 30s. It takes a week to recover these days. So I feel he's factoring in losing a week post stag but now wants to take it off the honeymoon instead.

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Hi there

I can see why your upset but I can also see your h2b point of view too. I'm a teacher as is my hubby to be and I know I would chill out and relax better in the long summer holidays when work is properly over for a honeymoon. We planned our wedding quite late so summer dates were quite booked up already. So we decided to get married in the Easter Holidays on Easter Sunday. We are planning a minimoon afterwards to Budapest a 5 star hotel for a few days because we have to go back to school. Then in the summer we are going to have our honeymoon going some where a little further afield. Had you thought about suggesting that? You understably want to spend some time with h2b after the wedding. I'm sure h2b could switch off from MA stuff for a weekend as he is already having a weekend away for his stag do. Then you also get two honeymoons instead of one! And something lovely to look forward to after the wedding. Hope you get it sorted soon.