Bridesmaid dilemma

I'm not having bridesmaids but I don't have any sisters and neither does my fiance. However, my brother is also engaged and getting married in October and I have NO role in his wedding whatsoever (he has a role in mine!) and it did upset me (especially as she's involving her brothers!). So, my advice is it's ok to not have bridesmaids, but it would be nice to offer your future sister-in-law some sort of role.

I’m not having “bridesmaids” either - I’m having bridesmen ?? my two male best friends and brother...however, similar situation in that my OH has a sister, and we wanted to include her and give her a role too. I considered asking her to do a speech but in the end settled on asking her to be part of the “bridal party” (we can come to speeches further down the line - personally I’d rather not have any!).


If you’re against bridesmaids then definitely don’t have them - yes it’s his day too, but there’ll be expectations with bridesmaids and it’ll be you who has to shoulder all of that! If you want to include them and give them special roles (not sure how many sisters there are) could you think about asking them to do readings, announcing you in, MCing, speeches? There’s definitely ways you can get them involved if you want, without having to go the whole bridesmaid hog

Not harsh at all. If you don't want bridesmaids, you shouldn't be obliged to change your mind just to please MIL. (And his sister might not even want to be a bridesmaid - it could just be his mum thinking it would be nice).

I'd suggest talking to your fiance about finding another role for his sister - perhaps being an usher, doing a reading etc.

Giving someone a reading to do is a brilliant idea. It's actually far more involved than being a bridesmaid.

Don't have to fork out for a dress either!

I feel like his sister doesn't want to be a bridesmaid in your wedding, only his mom wants it. But it's your wedding, the most precious time of your life, do what you want dear.

Stress! Yesterday we picked our date and secured our venue. I was so excited! OH rang the MIL to be be and she replied 'oh right' (she's a glass half empty kind of woman) she then interrupted and said so is Laura asking SIL to be bridesmaid...my OH half knowing my answer already turned round to me and said 'are you' so I had to say I didn't want any bridesmaids. I could hear MIL 'oh right well I thought you would have she's your sister' my OH said 'its not my choice' I was fuming!! I said to my OH you are choosing who you want as best man that's not my decision so me choosing not to have bridesmaids is my decision. I then went on to say I cannot deal with this mums negativity until our wedding. I'll be a mess. Needless to say it ended up in an argument.. so for the long rant I needed to vent