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Bridesmaid Dilemma

Eve, 3 October, 2024 at 20:18 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 2
I’m planning on getting married next year but I have a lot of girls in the family. I have 5 young family members all expecting to be bridesmaids (I haven’t had the conversation yet). The ages span from 11-15 and I would love to have them as bridesmaids, and if I don’t ask them, there isn’t anyone else in the family left to ask them (while they’re still young anyway, they might have each other). But I have a few really close friends that I would also have liked to have had but I don’t want 7/8 maybe even 9 bridesmaids as I think it’s a bit too much as I’m only having a registry office wedding with under 40 people. I debated asking the adults (that I would have had as bridesmaids) to wear the same colour as each other (different to the junior bridesmaids) just for picture purposes and so they stand out as something other than just a regular guest. Or is that over complicating things? Or should I just say **** it and just have all 7/8 of them (but that’s like 1/3rd of my guests😂) HELP! (P.S. In case you couldn’t tell - major overthinker)

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Latest activity by Jane, 4 December, 2024 at 13:35
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    VIP July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    Having a third of your guests as bridesmaids might be a bit much!

    You could just not ask any of your family - while they may not get the chance to be bridesmaid at a family wedding, they may have the opportunity to be bridesmaid for friends when they are older.

    Alternatively, you could ask your friends how they feel - they may not be that fussed about being bridesmaids!

    Ultimately, it's really about you and who you want around you on your wedding morning though - don't pick people out of a sense of obligation - pick the ones you really want.

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    Jane ·
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    Absolutely what RomanticGreenStationary says! Have who you'd actually like to be there by your side on your wedding day. It sounds like its your friends. The young family members will get over it - they'll have to. And if their mothers are reasonable women they'll soon help put out any attitudes!

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