So I've never really had a close group or a best friend so I don't really have an obvious choice.
My FMIL has already made it very clear that they are expecting me to choose my fiancé's sister as a bridesmaid. I've absolutely no problem with this, we get on really well and I probably would have asked her anyway. The other obvious choice is my own sister. We get on okay, we're just not very close at all. We don't talk to each other unless we see each other and we never make plans to see each other. It's just whenever everyone goes to Mums for the weekend or something like that. I've seen her twice this year and one of them was at her Nans funeral (we have different Dads). She wouldn't be offended if I didn't ask her but I feel awkward asking his sister and not mine. I'm also thinking if I keep it family I'm not gonna have any wedding photos where I no longer talk to my bridesmaids etc. I don't know if asking her will make us closer (I'm hoping so though) and she'll get involved with the wedding planning, or if it will just be awkward.
The other option is asking my friends, either instead or as well. My closest friend lives a little way away, we don't talk very often but I know if I needed her she'd be there in a heartbeat. She is very socially awkward and I think would hate the whole thing. If I did ask her, she would be my maid of honour for sure, but I'm not gonna lie I can't see her planning my hen or anything like that. The other friend I'm considering would be up for it (she's already asked if she can come dress shopping with me) but she's very inconsistent. She's just had a baby so I do understand completely but she's been like this for a few years, even before her son. She doesn't answer the phone, will reply to texts weeks later and can be hard to make plans with. This in itself doesn't bother me at all, it's just what she's like and she's doesn't mean any malice by it. I'm just not sure if it would work being a bridesmaid. Also, if we drift apart I worry about regretting having a bridesmaid I don't talk to.
I'm leaning more towards my sister and my fiancé's, I'm just worrying that the whole process will be awkward and the getting ready part won't be fun. My fiancé's sister is only 12 so we won't be able to do anything as just me and my bridesmaids, my FMIL would have to be there as well (I get on really well with my FMIL I just am unsure I want her involved with everything). Whereas, I know I would at least enjoy the time spent with my friends.