Anyone else had issues with their bridesmaids not quite getting along?
I have 4 bridesmaids, 2 are my oldest friends, one is my Godsister as we put it as my mum is her godmother and her mum is mine. The other one I've known since I was 6 months old, she's been there for me through everything. Both are already married.
Bridesmaid 1 got married last year, is very excited for my wedding, has lots of ideas for the hen, has no kids, and earns the most out of me and my adult bridesmaids.
Bridesmaid 2 has been married 4 years, has 2 kids under 3 years old, and a mortgage. She doesn't work as her youngest is only a few months old and she was a supply teacher, but didn't qualify for maternity pay.
Bridesmaid 1 has said to Bridesmaid 2 that as she's at home all day, she can organise my hen to BM1s instructions. When BM2 said she couldn't as she has 2 kids under 3 BM1 said "Well last time I was a BM, I was working full time with an hour commute each way, and was studying a degree too, but I still got it done"
This has upset BM2 and to be frank has pissed me off. I'm not big on being the centre of attention, all I wanted for a hen was a dinner mystery experience and some wine. Get a Groupon deal keep it as cheap as possible, job done. I'm not a big drinker, I have awful anxiety so low key is for me.
BM1 had plans for arts and crafts (I hate arts and crafts) cocktail making ( why do I want to relive my uni job?) and a murder mystery weekend.
When BM2 and BM3 (a work friend who I'm super close with and still see even though we've both changed job) said that was all a bit pricey and possibly out of the range I would like, BM1 has gone on about wanting my day to be special blah blah blah and how because we're in London we can't possibly do anything for £100pp (which is still more than I would like to be honest)
I love all my BMs but omfg this whole thing has made me not want any form of hen, and I can't tell BM1 to wind her neck in because I'm not meant to know what's been discussed but BM2s hubby mentioned it because she was getting upset.
I feel like BM1 is trying to recreate her hen for me, but I hated her hen, I planned it so it probably gave her the impression I liked that stuff but I planned it for her, she loves crafts etc
How the frigg do I tell BM1 I don't want any of that without her finding out I know what's been planned!?!?