Bridesmaid dress fiasco

So I took my bridesmaids to David's Bridal and we ordered 2 different dresses in the same colour. I don't personally like the idea of putting everyone in the same dress as some would feel uncomfortable and everyone has different figures. then she can try on whatever one she wants and chose whichever. However if its too much i'd definitely say so! x

I think it depends on who is funding the dress.

If it's you/it's coming out of the wedding fund, I think you're within your rights to gently explain that you dreamed of having the bridesmaids all sharing the same dress. Let her know you're happy to pay for some small changes to the current dress and maybe take her into your confidences (without the others around) to explain that not all the bridesmaids have the same stunning figure as her which is why her choice of dress, while beautiful, won't work for everyone. Making her feel part of the decision might help.

If she's paying for it, I think it's more complicated and she has more of a right to say what she wants (she's paying for it after all). In this scenario, maybe think about setting a theme (i.e. a shared colour palette) and letting each bridesmaid pick their own dress so they can flatter their own shape and match their own budget.

Chances are on the day you won't even think about what anyone else is wearing!

Whose wedding is this? Obviously yours! You choose the bridesmaid dresses- it's rude of her to demand specific things. It's good to take your bridesmaid's choices into account (as you have done with the ones with body confidence issues), but not if it's purely down to personal vanity. You are well in your right to tell her to refuse figure-hugging bridesmaid dresses.

Maybe try and reach a compromise on a fitted A-line dress? So one which has a lovely fitted bodice but a flowy skirt? Those are flattering on pretty much every body-type.