Bridesmaid gifts?

Hi

it's your wedding, so ultimately that decision is yours - don't worry about what's 'expected'.

However, one thing I will say is that I wouldn't consider you paying for the bridesmaid dress as a 'gift' to the girls, just because you want them as a bridesmaid so I wouldn't have expected my bridesmaids to lay for the dresses any way, and you have asked them so your not really doing them a favour paying for a dress that you want them to wear! If you see what I mean...

That said, as above, it's really up to you whether you want to thank them on the day with a small gift. I've got my BMs a bracelet with a little silver heart engraved with the wedding date and 'thank you'. But my BMs have been really helpful, so I cant let that go unnoticed!

It's down to you really. ....

I've paid for my girls dresses, hair and make up, I don't see that as a 'gift', to me that's a given if you ask someone to be a bridesmaid. Everyone has different opinions though.

I will be paying for my bridemaids dresses and also their hair - I have asked them to be a bridesmaid so I'm not going to ask them to pay for those things! Especially when the dress etc will ultimatley be my choice. Because of that I will more than likely get them a small gift each just to say thank you.

On the otherhand I am having a make up artist on the day and have said that if they would like their's done by her they will have to pay themselves. They havent had a problem with this

Each to their own!!

You don't have to do anything but a lot of brides do to choose to buy gifts for their BM's as a thank you. I haven't but I have bought them really expensive shoes that they chose themselves.

dont feel pressured though, it's entirely up to you and budget should be considered.

x

I don't think your Bm's would mind if you don't have a gift but if it will keep your mind off of that, you can give them something that's not too expensive or better yet DIY. e.g. small plant, bracelet, perfume, book, diy keychain, personalised mug, or even a simple creative letter good luck!

I have paid for everything regarding my bridesmaids and bought them a gift

I paid for my bms dresses ... They are wearing their own shoes and doing their own hair and makeup ... so as I didn't want to give them a pointless gift with bridesmaid on it and my wedding date that would just end up as a dust catcher I paid for us all to go on a spa day together. Was £60 each and lovely xx I have asked my photographer to take a pic of each bms with their partner/family and I will get them a frame for them ... I'm not one for showy gifts on the day so I'm ordering them a personalised thank you card. My bms have been brilliant and caused me no difficulties. .. They are my best friends and I've loved every wedding planning minute with them xx

I got a candle and a bar of handmade soap saying ''you're a star''. Done!!

I've got my bridesmaid a gift to say thank you for being my bridesmaid / thank her for being there for me. I don't see the dress as a gift as she has to have one. I feel a bit tight because I haven't bought her shoes and I'm not paying for her hair and makeup (mainly because she's not fussed) so I've got her a decent present but if you don't have much budget I've seen some really nice but cheap gifts around.

I'm looking forward to the moment i give my mum and bridesmaid their gifts on the morning of the wedding.

When it comes to bridesmaids there's a massive difference in opinion on what you should do. You just need to figure out what works best for you and your friends.
I bought my girls dresses which were over £200 each. They picked these themself but I chose the colour. As there very expensive I asked them to get there own shoes. Some people would frown at that but they were happy to. I did tell them that they could where what they wanted and didn't have to match.
I'm paying for hair and makeup, but it's not costing much as its a friend doing it.
I can't really afford a gift as I wasn't expecting to spend so much on dresses, but I couldn't imagine not getting them something.
I've decided to make them each a memory book filled with pictures of us and lots of daft little things that only we find funny.
It's barely costing me anything (I have tons of arts and craft supplies lying around the house) but I know they'll appreciate the effort.
I think it's nice to do something, it's the thought not the cost that matters.

I ended up going halves in my BM dress, because I only had 1, and let her pick the dress. I paid for hair/make-up and also got her a gift.

Its not mandatory to give a gift, but its more the norm than to not.

What about a bracelet, pendent, personalised photo frame, BM trinket box? Lots on amazon and reasonable priced. A nice, handwritten thankyou card along with it would be appreciated too:

I bought my BMs dresses and paid for their makeup, and I didn't get them gifts on the day. I bought them both thank you cards and gave them those on the morning. I don't feel guilty in the slightest!

Me and my bridesmaids are staying together in a cottage before the wedding and it has a amazing bath so my plan was to buy them all a bath bomb or some sort of lush product and some primarni pjs and some pampering bits so we can all chill out together before the wedding.

Also thinking about getting us necklaces but i need to do some more research! x

I've budgeted up to £150 towards the dresses. I'm not getting them a gift as such but I will be giving them a bag on the morning of the wedding with a thank you card, sparkly hair combs, a pashmina, and then a necklace or bracelet to wear depending on what style dress we get. I've also got personalised coathangers We may get some flowers or something at the time depending on budget.

I will echo what others are saying. I am paying for my BM's dress hair and make up. I have also thought about getting her a little silver bracelet or something similar. I have always thought that I should get her a little token gift…but tbf I thought it was the 'done thing' like getting a gift for mil or mob…?