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Bridesmaid Gifts - morning of and at he

Lauréline, 29 January, 2024 at 21:25 Posted on Planning 1 30
Hi!


Help!! Rich influencers who can afford lots or who get gifted loads seem to gift things constantly and therefore don’t know what the expectations may be? Even if they’re not super expensive gifts?

I know there’s no ‘rules’ or ‘pressure’ but social media is getting me all confused about what I as the bride should be doing when it comes to gifts for my bridesmaids and even hens!
So, my questions:
Am I as the bride meant to get my bridesmaids presents for the hen? Or just a thank you? Or neither?!
And then, if I’m gifting my bridesmaids some items for the morning of the wedding e.g. matching pjs.. do you keep this a surprise? I want to get things the girls will like and will fit so almost want to share in advance to make sure it’s ok? I will do something else too, so could keep that a surprise?
Thanks! Xx

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Latest activity by Ihsan, 19 April, 2026 at 06:04
  • R
    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    It's pretty standard to give a gift to your bridesmaids as a thank you, but I've never heard of it being done for hens as well (not in the UK anyway). I know some people give their bridesmaids something they can wear or use on the day (robe, necklace etc) and I think this is fine as long as you know it's something they will like and use again. E.g. It's not really a 'thank you' if they get a robe just so that they look good in the getting ready photos but they'll never use it again!

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  • S
    Beginner August 2024 Hampshire
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    Hi,

    I'm stuck with this too.

    I gave the bridesmaids a necklace as a proposal gift (which now I think has made it difficult as now I need to find other gift alternatives as thank yous). I'm giving them the matching earrings on the morning which they'll wear on the day (they'll wear the necklace if their dresses don't have high necklines).

    My dilemma is... do I give the bridesmaids a thank you gift (maybe the matching bracelet) at the speeches? or could I use the earrings as a thank you gift (although they'll get it on the morning and nothing at the speeches). Which means the mother of the bride/groom will receive flowers at the speeches and nobody else will receive anything. Or should we also give them to mother of bride/groom also on the morning. And what about the groomsmen? Do they get gifts? Do they get them at the speeches or morning?

    For the Hen, I have champagne/wine glass charms made for each guest (a small do) cheap from Etsy as a thank you and the Bridal Shower, I have put small chocolate hearts (in our colour theme) in a pretty bag, again cheap.

    I also got some satin robes for the morning, mainly for photos but I managed to get them so they can wear them afterwards too, so no personalisation or job title on the back. I just text everyone asking what size they are. Nobody asked why.

    I think people do expect something, sadly (or my lot do anyway)

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  • Leah
    Curious April 2024 Kent
    Leah ·
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    Would also love to hear peoples thoughts on this! My hen is in 2 weeks (eek!!) and I would love to get everyone attending a small something but I'm just not sure if it's the done thing, or will cost me an arm and leg! For the morning of my wedding, I've bought matching cotton PJ's (again, in the hope they will re-wear - nothing with names or roles on the back) and also a silver bracelet from the white company. This will be gifted whilst we are getting ready and will be a surprise. Both parents (flowers for mothers), and groomsmen (engraved Aspinal of London card holder) will also get their gifts in the morning, not during speeches.

    Hope that helps Smiley smile

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  • L
    Beginner February 2025 South West London
    Lauréline ·
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    Ahh!! How exciting for you! I guess with regards to costing an arm and a leg.. it depends how big it is? If you only have a few people, it could be really sweet? But think if it's a large group, maybe just something for the bridesmaids as a thank you (from reading above!).

    Love the White Company bracelet and pjs - agree on getting something which doesn't have roles or dates on. I've heard some people do discreet monogramming which I'm thinking could be cute on a pocket?

    What are you doing for the dad's if the mothers are getting flowers? Great shout on the card holders! And can't go wrong with Aspinal Smiley heart And like the idea of doing morning of rather than during speeches.. keep it more intimate?

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  • Leah
    Curious April 2024 Kent
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    Thank you so much! There are 18 of us, so I was thinking do I do goody bags / hangover kits, or just not worry about it and show how eternally grateful I am during our time together!!
    Discreet monogramming sounds SO cute!! Open to any ideas you have for dads, we're completely stuck (handkerchiefs went through my mind, or is that totally lame Smiley xd )!!

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  • L
    Beginner February 2025 South West London
    Lauréline ·
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    I think a hangover kit is really nice! Perhaps with a favourite photo of you with that person? Shows the thought and effort without being crazy money?

    I'm thinking handkerchief for my dad (but he uses them) - and getting it embroidered with something personal. No idea what to do for FIL though! I think if they are traditional men who would use handkerchiefs, it works! Not lame at all!!

    Also, this is making me feel so much better and you've given me some great ideas - thanks so much!

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  • S
    Rockstar July 2024 Cumbria
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    Hello! For my hen my Mum has got the girls some sunglasses, a straw, the bag is paper as my MIL has a sticker machine to put their name on it, she’s going to stick some alcohol in it and that’s what she’s got so far. For my bridesmaids on the morning I have them all a matching basket, robe, slippers a hand bag a nice charm with a glass and I’ll have a spread on the countertop with champagne and they can all dig in. Although my other bridesmaid wants to provide breakfast I’ll think of something. This was all done very very cheap but still looks classy. For the men we are buying their suits so that’s more than enough. They got thoughtful gifts when asked to be bestmen.
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  • Laurie
    Savvy May 2024 Lothian & Borders
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    Over the years I've been gifted - a simple gold necklace with a little pearl when I was a flower girl, a little silver clock from my mum when I was her bridesmaid and a necklace when I was a bridesmaid.

    I'm planning on getting my bridesmaids a simple dolly bag to use on the day which is the same colour as their dresses and a simple silver pendant necklace of some kind. We've bought the groomsman and best man kilt pins with their clan crests, and the groomswoman a pendant necklace with her clan crest so it all matches. It's something they can wear on the day and also have as a keepsake. We plan to give these to our 'squads' on the morning of the wedding.
    I too have seen the social media influencer posts, and my bridesmaids know that I don't have lots of money to spend - they even offered to buy their own dresses, but I insisted I paid for them.

    I haven't planned anything for parents on the day - other than I was going to get a photo printed and framed for them after the wedding as a thank you.

    I've never seen gifts being given at a hen thing. When I was a bridesmaid, me and the MOH got the bride a silly t-shirt, tiara and 'bride' sash on her hen day, and made sure her share of the activities was covered. It was our chance as her family/friends to have fun, celebrate and prepare her for her wedding day and we didn't expect anything from her. Our gift was getting to come to her wedding!

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  • Jess
    Curious October 2025 Durham
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    I’ve never heard of gifts for hen dos but I plan on giving my bridesmaids something on the morning of the wedding as a surprise. Things like matching jarmies I’m also going to buy but not as a surprise. I know lots who don’t do this though so just do why you feel comfortable with
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  • J
    Beginner June 2024 Devon
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    A digital photo frame like nixplay makes a great bridesmaid gift, especially if you preload it with fun pictures of your time together. It's personal, meaningful, and something they can keep adding to over time. I did this for my bridesmaids, and they loved it! You can even send new pictures to it remotely, so they keep getting surprise memories from the wedding and beyond.

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  • Emma
    Beginner May 2025 Lothian & Borders
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    I'm a recent bride and the one thing I really took from advice I got was not to go overboard with loads of stuff that has the wedding date or "bridesmaid" plastered on it – it's often not reused and ends up as clutter. I think a good mix is something fun (like a novelty item), something drinkable (a mini prosecco always goes down well), and one meaningful gift they can actually keep and wear again.

    Budget-wise, anywhere between £15–£25 is great – or less if you're creative – but honestly, there’s no set number. Just do what feels right for you. Your bridesmaids are there for you, not for the gifts.

    I gave mine a mini bottle, some cute polaroids of us, a little hangover kit, and a little heart locket (linked it below)
    https://shopaurea.co.uk/products/18k-gold-plated-heart-locket-necklace-17?_pos=1&_sid=bda1941a9&_ss=r

    They absolutely loved them, and it felt really personal without being over the top.

    As for the hen, I’ve never really heard of proper gifts – more just fun stuff like party sashes, shot glasses, willy straws etc. It’s all about the laughs more than the gifting!

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    When choosing bridesmaid gifts for the morning of the wedding, it’s thoughtful to go for something personal yet practical — like matching robes, jewelry, or a handwritten note expressing gratitude. You can also make the moment more fun by planning a small game or surprise to ease pre-ceremony nerves. I’ve even seen people use casual mobile games like 3 Patti Super Download to keep everyone relaxed and laughing while getting ready — it’s all about creating joyful, memorable moments together.

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  • Moto
    Beginner July 2021 Pakistan
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    I love how you highlighted small gestures that can make a bridesmaid feel appreciated on the morning of the wedding. It’s interesting how even simple gifts or notes can set the tone for the whole day. I also wonder if apps like crickex app login which keep things organized digitally, could inspire similar planning tools for wedding prep—making sure nothing is forgotten in the morning rush!

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  • Ihsan
    Beginner January 2003 Pakistan
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    Honestly, social media really makes wedding expectations feel bigger than they need to be. A genuine thank you and something thoughtful usually means more than expensive gifts. I was reading similar discussions while browsing crickex casino, and most people agree that sincerity matters more than presentation.

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    Beginner January 2003 Pakistan
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    It’s completely normal to feel confused with all the online pressure around weddings. From what I’ve seen, small personal gifts or even just appreciation go a long way with bridesmaids. I came across conversations like this while spending time on BetVisa Slot, and many brides focus more on comfort and meaning than surprises.

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  • Ihsan
    Beginner January 2003 Pakistan
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    Honestly, there really aren’t strict rules when it comes to bridesmaid gifts. Many brides simply give something small and thoughtful like matching pajamas, robes, or personalized items for the wedding morning. The main thing is showing appreciation rather than the price of the gift. While browsing different online communities recently, I also noticed people mentioning darazplay referral code in several discussion threads.

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    Beginner January 2003 Pakistan
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    A lot of brides choose something simple but meaningful for their bridesmaids, especially items they can use on the wedding day like robes, jewelry, or personalized keepsakes. It doesn’t have to be expensive at all — the gesture is what matters most. I was recently exploring some online forums and also saw people discussing KV8 sign up in different web communities.

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    Bridesmaid gifts are a sweet way to say thank you for furni folks their love and help. Giving gifts in the morning makes the day feel more special and fun. It shows you care and makes your friends feel happy and valued.

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  • Abid
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    Honestly, don’t let social media stress you out — it really skews expectations. Most brides aren’t doing huge influencer-style gift bags, and there’s absolutely no rule that you need to give gifts at the hen. A genuine thank you (or even a small thoughtful gesture) is more than enough.

    For bridesmaids, a gift on or around the wedding day is a lovely touch, but it doesn’t have to be over the top — something meaningful always matters more than how much you spend. Matching PJs are super common now, and honestly, it’s totally fine to check sizes or even preferences beforehand so everyone feels comfortable. You can always keep another small gift as a surprise to make it feel special.

    At the end of the day, it’s about appreciation, not pressure. Try not to compare — just do what feels right for you and your girls. I actually came across a good discussion on expectations vs reality while browsing Live Gold Rate in UAE (randomly, I know 😄), and it really reminded me how much social media exaggerates things.

    You’re already being thoughtful — that’s what they’ll remember most 💛

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  • Zoytress
    Beginner November 2026 Merseyside
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    Honestly, don’t let social media confuse you — it really exaggerates things. Most brides are not doing big influencer-style gifting, and there’s absolutely no expectation to give gifts at the hen. A genuine thank you (or a small thoughtful gesture if you want) is more than enough.

    For bridesmaids, it’s lovely to give a gift around the wedding day, but it doesn’t need to be over the top — something meaningful matters far more than how much you spend. Matching PJs are super common, and it’s completely fine (and actually smart!) to check sizes or preferences beforehand so everyone feels comfortable. You can always keep another small gift as a surprise to make it special.

    At the end of the day, it’s about appreciation, not pressure. Do what feels right for you and your group — that’s what they’ll remember. I actually saw a similar discussion about expectations vs reality while browsing Spotify Premium APK Download 2026 , and it really shows how much social media can distort what’s “normal.”

    You’re already being thoughtful, and that’s what truly matters

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    It’s always thoughtful to show your bridesmaids some love, and gifts don’t have to break the bank! Many brides give a small token or thank-you for the hen, and matching PJs or little goodies for the wedding morning are such a fun touch. You could check sizes or preferences in advance to make sure everyone will love them, then still surprise them with something extra on the day. For some creative ideas, check out Bachelorette Hibachi Party Love Hibachi – it’s a fun way to celebrate with your closest friends!

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  • Ihsan
    Beginner July 2004 Pakistan
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    Ich glaube, viele Bräute fühlen sich durch Social Media etwas unter Druck gesetzt, obwohl es eigentlich keine festen Regeln gibt. Kleine Gesten oder ein persönliches Dankeschön für die Brautjungfern reichen oft völlig aus und kommen meist besser an als teure Geschenke. Beim Stöbern im Netz über verschiedene Themen bin ich auch auf https://knodel-fassadenreinigung.de gestoßen.

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  • Ihsan
    Beginner July 2004 Pakistan
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    Meiner Meinung nach geht es eher um die Geste als um den Preis der Geschenke. Viele entscheiden sich einfach für etwas Persönliches oder Nützliches für den Hochzeitstag, und das reicht normalerweise völlig aus. Während ich ähnliche Diskussionen gelesen habe, bin ich auch auf https://super-entruempler.de/ gestoßen.

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  • Ihsan
    Beginner July 2004 Pakistan
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    Planning details like this can definitely feel confusing, especially with all the different ideas people share on social media. In most cases, there’s really no strict rule—many brides simply give a small thank-you gift to their bridesmaids either during the hen party or on the wedding day. Matching pajamas for the morning of the wedding sound like a lovely idea, and asking their sizes beforehand is totally normal so everything fits well. While browsing online recently I also came across Bitkingz Casino Win, which looked interesting for people who enjoy online gaming.

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