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Sarah
Beginner May 2023 West Sussex

Bridesmaid Hair and Make up

Sarah, 31 December, 2021 at 13:52 Posted on Planning 0 5

Hi, Im trying to sort our budget and have booked hair and make-up artists for myself for our big day but what is acceptable for bridesmaids. When I've been a bridesmaid before the bride paid for my hair and make up as I was still in University at the time. Now is it acceptable to ask bridesmaids who are working to pay for their own hair and make up to be done or is this something I should budget for?

When I spoke to colleagues who are being bridesmaids for their own friends weddings they have said they would expect their hair and make up is paid for but when I spoke to my maid of honour she said she would want her hair done but would be happy to do her own make up instead.
Personally I'd perfer everyone to have professionally done hair and make up as its not oftern we get to treat ourselves and on a special day I want it to be extra special for my besties as well as myself as part of the getting ready (there is only 4 of us including myself).

So really what I'm asking is if I'm the one that wants my bridemaids to have their hair and make up done, can I ask my bridesmaids to pay for themselves if I buy their dresses or come up with some sort of arrangemnet like that?

What are other people doing?


Thank you for reading the long messages.

5 replies

Latest activity by Janine, 5 January, 2022 at 10:10
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    As a general rule, if you are expecting your bridesmaids to wear a specific dress or have their hair/makeup done a certain way, then you need to pay for it yourself. If you are happy for them to pick their own dress, hairstyle & makeup (e.g. any floor-length dress in green and any half-up-half-down hairstyle), then its ok to ask them to pay. Having said that, there is a lot of flexibility these days in who pays for what - the key thing is to make sure that everyone knows what is expected of them before they commit. So be upfront with what you expect your bridesmaids to pay for, and check they are ok with that and reassure them it's ok to change their minds if they are not happy with it. I wouldn't assume that someone working full time is in a better financial position than a student though - while they are earning more, they are also likely to have more financial demands.

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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
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    Ifbyou want them to have it done professionally I would say you should pay. If you are not fussed then say they can do their own but if want professional then thry can pay themselves. That's what I did with my BMs and they have agreed to pay, I have bought their dresses and shoes etc
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  • Karisma
    Savvy March 2023 Kent
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    You should pay if you want them to have it done. At the moment I’m not sure I will have anything left in the budget to pay for my bridesmaids makeup and I don’t mind what they do, so I have told them if they would like to get it done they will likely have to pay for themselves and they are more than happy too
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  • MrsRtoH
    Savvy October 2022 Merseyside
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    Heyyy
    To echo others, the rule is if you want a certain thing, you have to pay for it. I can't afford to pay for all 5 of my girls to have both hair and make up. I've told them this and they're fine with that, I've said it's one or the other and you pick which they all seem happy with and have all said hair. I also told them if you want to pay the £40 odd quid extra to have the other done then that's absolutely fine too. Xx
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  • Janine
    Beginner August 2022 Greater Manchester
    Janine ·
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    I’ve been a bridesmaid twice and only had dress bought for me both times, no hair or makeup etc.
    I have 5 BMs and I’m buying their dresses and paying for their hair, I would love to pay for everything but worried about final cost, so I would say pay for what you can comfortably
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