I don't know if anyone else has had this issue but I would appreciate advise..
One of my bridesmaids was my best friend for 5 years, we don't see eachother often now or even speak that often but when we do it's just like old times.. We don't really need to see and speak to eachother all the time if you get me? Anyway I've been trying to think of what to do for my hen do and asked people (including all my bridesmaids) what they thought would be a good thing to do.. She suggested a weekend in dublin which as lovely as it sounds would be to expensive for a lot of the people coming on the hen do.
I have found a weekend away in england which would cost about £100 each which most people have said is fine and they would like to do.. However my friend text me to say how she wouldn't be able to come as it costs too much as she's saving for a mortgage and it just wasnt practical for her. The thing is I know she gets quite a big bulk of money each month so £100 shouldn't be that much for her. I also know that she's got a boyfriend who she only sees at weekends and I don't know if that is playing a part in why she wouldn't want to come (as she wouldn't be able to see him).
I'm also confused at how she can suggest going to dublin which would cost a couple of hundred pounds but can't do that? I understand that to some people £100 is far to much but as she is my bridesmaid I thought she would at least try to make the effort to save rather than point blank saying no? I spoke to my mum and she can't understand it either.
It would be really weird if she didn't come to my hen do.. But it is something I would really like to do and when I was looking at it all I was getting really exited. So I basically need to decide to go for the hen do I would like and not have her there or do something a lot cheaper (like a night out) so she can be there, but isn't really what I want to do.
I just don't know.. And I really don't understand why she wont even try to save?
