Bridesmaid issues

I’ve got a great group of girls to be my bridesmaids but a couple are being negative and tough to deal with so I voiced it and now I’m overthinking whether I should have or not.


Firstly they both have stuff going on in their personal lives so I understand that is the main priority for them. However shortly after I picked them and was discussing some wedding bits they were judgy/negative down to wine on the table and they won’t be drinking it or me wanting to keep what my dress is like to myself and why am I not showing them as they’ve never heard of someone doing that. There’s a few more bits been said here and there to which I’ve got to the point I don’t really want to mention much incase I get an odd comment on it.
Next is the hen do, from the start I have said i would love to go abroad but would also be super happy with a city break in the uk I'm pretty laid back with whatever just want to celebrate with my friends. So I left it to the bridesmaid to sort it and the two girls who were the ones making comments were now giving minimal response to radio silence, one messaged me to say she won’t be coming due to it being abroad and a couple months later so did the other due to financial reasons.
I’m bummed as I wanted them there but understand but at the same time I don’t get why they couldn’t arrange it to work with their needs. So there’s that, the negative comments and lack of effort I’ve just got the impression they don’t want to be bridesmaids. So I reached out and said have I done anything and do they still want to be bridesmaids? One reacted okay and the other not so much and didn’t understand really where this had come from so I explained it all and haven’t heard back since (this was earlier today so it’s all happened in the past 24 hours)
All in all was that the right thing to do? Or should I have just kept my mouth shut, I’m now overthinking it worrying what if this could ruin the friendship.