Bridesmaid just wants my life! Advice needed!!

It takes two to make a competition.

You say that you are marrying your OH because you love him. Which is all that matters. When someone else gets married, what they have at their wedding and why they are doing it can't affect your life with your OH unless you let it.

Just keep reminding yourself of that.

If you don't want her copying your ideas for your wedding, then don't show her what you are having. But otherwise, just try to let it go. There will always be people in life who feel they have to outdo everyone else - but they can only bother you if you let them.

I agree with Romantic Green above, do not let it bother you and stop sharing your own wedding plans to avoid her having the chance to comment. I admit I also find it strange how you say that your mums were friends so you had to be, that shouldn't be how it works, especially not in adulthood, you can choose your own friends even if she does live in your parents rental. If I may say it sounds a bit like sour grapes from you when you say she doesn't work and has to have everything bigger than you do. Some people are like that and show off about what they have all the time. I would ignore it and rise above it, happy in the knowledge that you have earnt your wedding and are doing it the way you want to.

Do not feed the competition!

This sounds so draining—she’s clearly turning your happy moment into a competition, and that’s not on you at all. Set gentle boundaries: when she copies or one-ups you, keep responses short and don’t engage with the comparison. On your hen do, lean into your people and focus on your fun—her stuff doesn’t have to ruin your vibe. You worked hard for this, own it!

That sounds really draining, especially when this time should be about celebrating your relationship and the journey you’ve both had together. It’s hard when someone close turns everything into a comparison instead of just being supportive. I’ve seen similar situations where setting gentle boundaries and focusing on what truly matters helps shift the energy back where it belongs. Sometimes stepping back and concentrating on practical things, like sorting out details and doing your own County property values research for future plans, can also keep your mind grounded. At the end of the day, your wedding is about you and your partner — no one can take that meaning away from you.