Sorry for the rant and the long post but sooooooo annoyed and wanted a 2nd opinion....I have posted about this on here a few months ago but thought it was all sorted unitl last night.....
When myself and H2B decided to get married, we decided we would have my 2 best friends (I am very very close to them) as bridesmaids and both of our sisters children involved too. This would be his sisters 2 girls and my sisters young boy as a ring bearer/page boy. We decided that as although he is closeish to his sister, I really am not all that close to mine any more and only really see/speak to eachother if we happen to be at my mums at the same time. Other than this, I dont see her but I do see my nephew regular as he spends a lot of time at my parents if my sisteris at work.
My sister can be a bit of an 'everything for effect and all about her' kind of person and it really rubs both myself and H2B up the wrong way most of the time!
When we told our families we were getting married, we said to both sisters that instead of having 'an army' of people walking down the aisle (me, my dad, 2 best friends, 2 nieces, and nephew without sisters!!) we were going to have the children involved and both sisters would be our whitnesses.SIL2B was over the moon that her girls were bridesmaids and very honoured that she would be a whitness.My sister kicked straight off saying that she SHOULD be a bridesmaid and questioned why I wouldnt have her. i explained about numbers to which she replied 'well i'll pay for my own dress then'! She has not let it drop since and everytime the wedding gets mentioned she makes a dig infront of anyone who will listen or roll her eyes and switch off. To make her feel more involved, we asked her to do a reading which she said she would like to do.... but again, still harping on about the bridesmaid issue.
Last night I popped into her partners house (his daughter does my nails!!) and it got bought up about my wedding. Again, she said she couldnt believe that she is not a fu****g bridesmaid. Again, I explained it all to her and said that I wanted our nieces and nephews involved and kinda thought she would be happy with that. Her response was 'well why are you having them? Cant you drop them and have your sister and SIL instead?'!! I again said about her doing a reading and being a whitness to which I got a 'well im not doing that. no way. You can ask and ask but I wont do it. Far too nerve wracking.... and what was that other thing you said?? a whitness??? well i suppose I will do that, but a reading. No way'!!
My blood was boiling!! As it was infront of her partner and his children I chose to not make an issue about it and just kept quiet.
I went over to my mums last night to talk about it. She was very upset that we were arguing but also extreemly annoyed at my sister, saying she thought it was just jealousy. She has said she wont talk to my sister about it unless she brings it up as she doesnt want to make it even worse and doesnt want us arguing.I completly agree with her as I know it will cause more trouble and wouldnt expect her to get involved in our argument. I just wanted her opinion more than anything.
I now feel bad for my Mum as I know she wans it to be a lovely day that we all look forward to and doesnt want any awkwardness when the wedding is mentioned. They are also contributing to it heavily financially and I dont want them to be spending a fortune on something that ends in family arguments.
Part of me is now determined to not get her involved in any planning at all as she has been so rude to me and selfish but the other part is also thinking maybe I should just grin and bear it and go back on my initial thoughts and ask her to be a BM so no arguments etc are caused. That would be purely for my Mum and Dads sake though as I want to keep the peace.
Sorry for the long post and moaning but just wanted to know what other hitchers thought?
