Bridesmaid problems!

She may not have realised how lovey dovery they were being if it's a new thing. Ok, if she's not seen you in a year I'd hope a friend would want to spend time with ME too.... Are you able to have a word with her? IF she's that good a friend just say something about how nice it was to see her happy with her new fella, but you miss the time it's been just the pair of you, and you'd hoped to ahve spent a bit of time reminiscing etc etc. You may have to be straight and tell her you're planning on having just the girls getting ready together on the morning, and hope she understands, but it is only for one morning and they'll have all everning to be together x

She's probably just super loved up. I've found that for my friends who live far away, I never get to see them on their own anymore as it's always a weekend visit with OHs so I do know what you mean.

I'm sure she will have settled down by the wedding and all will be fine. But if it's bothering you, you can say something along the lines of how excited you are that you'll get to spend quality girl time for the hen do and wedding morning prep, that should make it clear.

Thanks girls,

I sent her an email saying I hope she got back home safe and that it was a shame we didnt get to catch up as much as usual. She hasnt replied...odd!

x

I'm having this problem with my maid of honour who is my sister! She spends all her time with her boring boyfriend too! I live away at uni during the week and return home on weekends so I don't see them all the time. But I really want to discuss wedding plans and ideas (not getting married until 2015 but can still plan!) and she has no interest what so ever! I told my mum the other day that I actually regret asking her to be maid of honour. I've done more planning with one of my bridesmaids who is so excited and squeals at every picture I show her!

I'm afraid I have no advice, but maybe you can take comfort in knowing you're not the only one!

Hope it gets better soon! X

Is this a real thread?

I hear you there Mini. There have been a few threads recently from people who can't believe their bridemaids are getting on with their own lives and aren't completely obsessed by helping to plan someone else's wedding.

I think this is a tad bit harsh and I think quite rude. I'm not expecting my maid of honour to be 'obsessed' with my wedding, but taking some interest would be nice - is that really so hard to ask?! This is a forum for people to get help and advice about anything to do with weddings, bridesmaid problems is obviously to do with weddings!

All I'm saying is that it's interesting both these situations involve bridesmaids who have recently found a guy themselves so obviously they are not going to have as much time for you as they want to spend time with their new fellas. Can't you be happy for them? They probably thought you'd become boring when you first met your OH! Everyone goes through that stage.

Well said Lotti.

It hurts when your BM's don't seem to give a whatsit about your wedding. Like you said, we're not expecting them to be obsessed with our weddings but considering how much stress we are under, the BM's showing a bit of interest is much appreciated! There's nothing worse than a bridesmaid throwing a self centered tantrum about what SHE wants to wear /do (this happened to me) or on the flip side, having someone sat there sulking, picking her finger nails because she can't be bothered with what's going on. It makes you wonder why you bothered asking and why you are wasting money on them!

OP - next time she pops over to Cham, politely ask her to come alone and I'm sure you'll get into the swing of things again. They are obviously going through the 'love-sick puppy' phase at the moment!

PS. I went skiing in Cham a few years ago and LOVED IT!! Where are you getting married? Excited!!

I'm obviously happy for my sister to be in a relationship, just because I would like her to show some interest in the wedding doesn't mean for one second I'm not happy for her! And to be fair, you don't know ANY of the circumstances at all! And do they really have to spend every second with them? NO they don't! I wasn't boring at all when I first met my OH, I took it steady and had time for my friends and family!

I'm not the type of person to ask someone to be bridesmaid just for the sake of it, I AM expecting them to take SOME interest in my wedding as they are a big part of it too! And most of the times where I have asked her for input is when I'm wanting to know about HER bridesmaid dress!

Next time, keep quiet

Oh this is a real thread? I assumed it was a troll, my bad.

When you first meet someone, you are a right bore. All you can do is witter on about how great your man is blah blah blah. Ive been there, you have been there I am sure. It passes.

Your wedding will be important to her, just dont expect her to palpitations of joy over each and ever aspect and to join in heartily over a debate over ivory vs white napkins.

I think the only thing I expected my CBM to do was organize the hen do. She has her own life to lead, likewise when I have been the CBM all I have done is plan a good pisss up, wear whatever frock I am supposed to and stay with the bride the night before. Had I known I should be re-planning my life around the bride I would have said no.

Well, it seems I'm a VERY different bride to you, Mini, I want my bridesmaids to be happy with what they wear not 'wear what ever they're supposed to!' - I like them to have a choice

Again, saying that they're supposed to re-plan their life around the wedding is b*llocks and not what we have said at all! We just want them to show some interest! A simple 'oh that's nice' or 'I like that dress' is all I'm asking for!

If you can't give any actual advice, what's the point in saying anything? My mistake for thinking people planning a wedding are supposed to be adults.

Hi girls,

My friend is getting married in August, out in my new home of Chamonix. I'm very excited about seeing all her friends and family out there for the wedding, but in the past couple of days I've started to feel a little down about my friend and I was wondering if anyone else has had any similar issues.

Basically my best friend asked me to be her maid of honour, I met and lived with her at uni. Then her bridesmaids are her two younger sisters and another best friend from uni.

Its amazing how weddings really make brides over-analyse completely unrelated areas of their lives, isn't it? My friend is amazing and she has been my friend for years, but she invited me out to see her for the past three days for the first time in a year and I have not been so bored in such a long time! It's not her, it's the wedding. I brought my new boyfriend with me and she never gave a second thought to asking about us or our relationship. So it was super awkward and I had to show my boyfriend lots of affection as it made us feel uncomfortable. She was boring. She took us on a walk to where she is having the wedding reception and whilst she was so excited, she wasn't really paying attention to us. Despite the fact we had travelled all the way there to see her. Great friend, huh?! I know she is really excited about the wedding and I am happy for her, but after a year in which we have not seen each other, I'd hoped she would be interested in the things going on in my life too.

Of course I can't step down - I'm not that mean! What I'm saying is I kinda regret saying yes. I thought she was a best friend!

Anyone else had a similar problem?!

you would think eh?

She does give advice, she gives bad advice, did you not read her signature?

And as for the 'supposed to be adults' comment, the last line of your post is the most childish one on the thread so far. Mini gave a different perspective, just because you don't agree doesn't give you carte blanche to tell her not to comment.

Haha you're telling me to read your posts properly when you blatantly haven't read what I've said about wanting some interest and not to give up their whole life up until my wedding!

I really can't be bothered with a petty person like yourself. I was just trying to help a fellow bride who was in need of some cheering up.

I did read that bit lovely. I just CBA to respond to it. You dont live in Birmingham do you?

BlondeViki- (after 3 years still cant work out to double quote) I know, my sig makes it clear but still people are disappointed when I dont agree and call them hun.

Another glowing reference for your sig, Mini

I would pop it in but I am running out of room for all my glowing accolades.

To be fair I think I am 100% more boring to my friends now than when I'd jut got with OH. I didn't have any responsibility and was always with our mates. Now I have a mortgage and a wedding to pay for

Happy valentines ...lets all drink champagne

Cor, pipe down, Mini.

This is a plan I can get behind!

Fab username by the way!!

I would hate to steal Kharvs crown.

I think it is fair to say that our OP is a troll.....bless everyone for trying to get behind her and defend her. Go ladies.

I think you are being a bit mean mini, surely you would want everyone to squee over a wedding that is still nearly 2 years away!

That crown is mine b*tch.

Whats a troll?

Someone who makes a false profile and posts things that will cause a reaction. Normally they never post again. After being on h for a while you start to spot them, this is why it's funny when people try and defend them etc without knowing the history

Google forum troll and it should give you a good understanding

I am on the fizzy rose does that count??

Oh yes!!!!!

Erm Jodie did you read the thread before commenting? This is a very old thread posted by a troll.