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Joanne
Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester

Bridesmaides

Joanne, 20 January, 2025 at 16:41 Posted on Planning 3 30
Hello everyone. I'm having an emotional breakdown. I don't have very many friends let alone a few I would consider close enough to be bridesmaids so I think I'm going to go it alone and not have bridesmaids. I think k I'm ok with that decision but who on earth will sit with me whilst I get ready? Who are you all having? My mum is quite poorly and sometimes a bit of a mood hoover so I'm not sure about her. I love my fiancé's mum and step mum but again is that weird? Unless I just as his best man's wife and one of the groomsman wives as we kind of all get on well but again we only all get to see each other a couple of times a year so I don't know if that's weird. I am quite comfortable when I'm on my own so I'm sure I can occupy myself and I think I'll get a professional hair and make up person so there's someone to talk too. I suppose my question is has anyone been to a wedding with a similar situation for the bride / are you the same as me and just your thoughts really. Thank you x

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Latest activity by Alfred, 7 February, 2025 at 09:59
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    I didn't have any bridesmaids and am also happy with my own company - originally I planned to get ready alone, but my OH was worried by that, so I invited a friend to join me. But in the event, Covid regs (July 2020 wedding) meant that I had to get ready alone anyway and it was absolutely fine.

    You know yourself best. If you are happy with the idea of getting ready alone apart from your vendors, then go for it. Personally, I think there is a lot to be said for getting ready in a quiet and peaceful environment, taking some time for yourself before the busyness of the day!

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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Thank you so much. It's nice to know that I'm not completely mad. I'm thinking maybe getting there early so I can have a bath in their enormous tub! Lush here i come. I've got time to still consider everything and see who I might like with me. Isn't it funny they little things that get us upset and nervous
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    Be prepared for lots of people to tell you that you 'must' have bridesmaids (and all sorts of other things too) If you find it stressful, come up with a set phrase to use to choke off enquiries. I told people "We're keeping our wedding plans as secret as possible so that it's more of a surprise for our guests on the day". Very difficult to argue with that, and it meant that I didn't get hassle over not having bridesmaids, a veil, a fancy wedding car or anything else that we wanted to ditch!

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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    That's a really good idea, thank you. Everyone is so blooming nosy and repeatedly asking questions when even I'm not sure on a few things at the moment.
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  • Nicole
    Beginner October 2024 Cumbria
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    I don’t think you have to have bridesmaids, equally it can be nice to have people to get ready with. I think have who you want as long as they are they because they love you and are there to celebrate your special day that’s all that matters, I wouldn’t do something just because it’s expected.
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  • Kim
    Beginner December 2025 Durham
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    Hi there, I have just seen your post and wanted to reach out. We're getting married in December this year and have also decided not to have bridesmaids. I think some people will struggle with this decision but I wanted to say that whatever you decided for your day is absolutely perfect! Try to stay strong with what you really want. As for getting ready, we are having mums and sisters but I think perhaps someone you're most comfortable with that will bring you light and joy on your special morning. x

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  • Nikki
    Beginner June 2026 Orkney
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    It's not weird to have your future mother in law, if that's who you are comfortable with. It's your day and your morning, you can spend it alone if your happy that way.
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  • Elisia
    Beginner March 2025 West Yorkshire
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    I am having bridesmainds but im staying at the venue the night before, so its just me and the kids before they arrive, still not sure if they are getting ready here or at home tbh! its your day just enjoy!

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  • Ali
    Savvy January 2025 Pakistan
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    " Branded clothing elevates style and creates a cohesive look, just like the perfect bridesmaid dresses. When selecting the right attire for your bridal party, consider timeless elegance combined with personal flair. Whether you’re going for a classic design or modern twist, make sure your bridesmaids feel confident and beautiful. Custom touches or matching colors can enhance the theme, ensuring your wedding day is as stylish as it is memorable."

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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Aww that sounds like a good plan. Enjoy every moment x
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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Thank you Nikki
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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Thanks Nicole, I'm reassured to try and just do what I want to do. Which is funny as I still don't 100% know what to do but I have a whole year to figure it out 🤣
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    Beginner May 2026 Northumberland
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    I’m so pleased you’ve been open with this! I’m planning my wedding and the biggest worry I have is whether to have bridesmaids or not.
    I haven’t got any ‘best friends’ and although I have good friends, they’re people I work with and feel it would be strange to ask them! I also worry they might feel like it’s strange or we’re not close enough for them to be bridesmaids.

    I also worry about getting ready alone/with my Mam and if the day wouldn’t be as exciting!You’re not alone in feeling the way you do!
    Keep reminding yourself that it’s your day. Do whatever you feel comfortable and happy with and be true to yourself. X




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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Hi Abbie,
    I conpletely understand. After speaking to everyone in this chat (and thank you all again) I'm definitely not having bridesmaids and I'm going to have just the mums with me about an hour or two before so i can spend the first hour in the bath with a chic flick on in the background. It's our day and we have to remember that x
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    Yeah!!! My friend you are right. But it will be a good things if you have a bride maid i
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    Beginner October 2025 East London
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    Im getting married this year and won’t be having any bridesmaids either, my mum is not in my life but have asked my step mum so will just be me and her on the day.
    I would say ask your fiances family if you are close with them, your wedding day is about you and your other half so whatever is comfortable and normal for you guys is what will make the day great for you. Even if you don’t want anyone with you this is also ok.
    Hope the rest of your planning goes well ❤️
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  • Ozay
    Beginner August 2026 Norfolk
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    Hi Joanne ! Sorry to hear you’re having a difficult time around this. I think as long as you’re happy that’s all that matters. It’s your wedding day. If you would like your partners family with you then great and not weird at all. You need to do what’s right for you and comfortable Smiley smile
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    Beginner June 2025 Bedfordshire
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    Hi, I don’t have any bridesmaids. I will have my daughter that will help me get ready and that’s fine. You can have whomever you feel comfortable around to. There’s no set rule.
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    Beginner January 2020 Tyne & Wear
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    Hey, I completely see where you are coming from! It's your day, so do what seems right to you. It's not strange to have your fiancé's mother or the groomsmen's wives accompany you if you're comfortable with them, they're individuals who care about you! It's also quite acceptable if you enjoy being alone. To be honest, I believe that many people will understand your decision, and having a professional on hand to discuss with is a fantastic idea! Trust your instincts, it will be perfect.

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    First off, sending you a big congrts! Weddings are such an emotional time, and it’s completely okay to do things your own way. If you’re comfortable getting ready alone, go for it! A professional hair and makeup artist can definitely keep you company and bring some positive energy to the room.

    If you’d like some extra support, having your fiancé’s mum, stepmum, or even the wives of the groomsmen could be a lovely option—it’s not weird at all! It’s all about surrounding yourself with people who bring good vibes.

    Also, setting the mood while getting ready can make a huge difference! Soft background music can be super soothing, and if you want an ad-free, high-quality experience, Spotify Premium is worth checking out here . 🎶 Wishing you a beautiful and stress-free wedding day!

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  • Joanne
    Beginner April 2026 Greater Manchester
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    Thank you all so much for your advice and support. Very appreciated.
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  • Jade
    Beginner October 2027 Herefordshire
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    Hey! I completely get where you are coming from. I have a very small friend circle, but the one person I'm closest to is a bloke, so I've asked him to be a "brideman" and then the other is a friend ive known for a while. These are probably the only two people I will have with me when getting ready. Massively introverted and have a small social battery, but I've felt the massive pressure to invite people and have people there. I keep having to step back and just think, actually this is mine and my partners day so as long as I'm happy (if thats with a super small group of people or none) then that's fine, and try not to give into outside pressures!
    If you're close to his mum etc ask them! Im sure they'd be really pleased you want them involved. Dont feel that you cant because it isnt the norm. Its your day Smiley smile
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    Beginner September 2027 East London
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    I am in the Same boat I have one main friend and that’s it really. I do not have any family I speak to other than my step mum and step sister who are both far away and my dad who’s very unwell. My fiance also has very few family and friends so I’m worrying about who we will even invite! It can be hard having a wedding when you don’t have the same stuff as everyone else but I’m sure we can both smash it on our own! 💜


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    Beginner December 2025 Greater Manchester
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    Surely nothing is impossible with God just have faith.. And watch how everything will fall in pleasant places
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  • Alfred
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    Hi everyone
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  • Alfred
    Beginner July 2025 New York
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    Hello Joanne I will love you to hit me up let's discuss about that


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