Bridesmaids

I suspect you are younger than me (I'm 44!) but I am not having any friends in my Bridal party as they are all married already! I am having my sister as MOH (42) and my two girls (14 and 12) plus my sisters kids who are aged 3, 8 and 10. They are the only children coming to the whole wedding. I just thought I would give an different spin on it, you can have whoever you like as BM, and if it will be easier to just have your cousin then that is fine too.

I don’t think friends mind too much not to always be a bridesmaid as long as they still get to be involved in fun stuff like the hen and keeping them updated on any prep! I had a large group of close girl friends (7) and decided it would be way too much for all of them, but also didn’t want to choose between them. So instead asked one close friend and my SiL. Also I definitely haven’t matched bridesmaids to groomsmen if that helps - he’s having 7! It’s our day to enjoy rather than the photos looking odd do what you want x

I know you mention saving money, but from personal experience, if the money aspect won't be an issue, I would say just go for it and ask all 5. I originally intended to have 4 bridesmaids, then decided at the last minute to add 2 of my cousins. My thought process was that I am close to them, could afford two extra bridesmaids, and it actually helps having more people to help with odd jobs. I'm SO glad I asked them - they were over the moon to be asked (I don't think they expected it at all), and they have been so excited an enthusiastic about everything so far. It's going to cost me more money in the long run in terms of dresses, bridesmaid gifts etc. but I really feel I made the right decision - life's too short to worry too much about these things! xx

If you can afford it then I’d say have all 5. If not then maybe just your MOH or if your friends wouldn’t mind chipping in towards dresses etc.


It’s your day and friends shouldn’t care. But I know if I was in a group of 5 and everyone was part of it then I would feel really awkward.

I have my sister and my MOH and my H2B 2 little cousins as my junior bridesmaids, we aren’t having any grooms men, if you’re worried about cost you could always pay for their dresses and shoes and ask if they could pay for hair, makeup and accessories (or something along those lines) if you wanted to