I have chosen my bridesmaids and have made the decision not to include my SIL as part of the bridal team. There has been issues in the past with my SIL and her husband but we have now moved on and can be around each other with no negative feelings towards each other. Saying this my partner has never been close with his sister and with that I feel it’s made it harder to form any relationship with her as we only see her when we’re round the MIL’s house. My partner and myself have tried to make effort with them, whether it’s seeing how they all are, trying to plan something with them, keeping them updated with the wedding plans.. but don’t seem to get the same effort back, they seem to show little interest in wanting much to do with us. We didn’t even get any acknowledgment regarding our ‘ save the date ‘ If it wasn’t for the family gatherings throughout the year we would have very little to do with her and her husband and their little one if nothing at all. Now when we see my MIL she’s always asking how things are going with the wedding and seems to be only interested in asking if I’ve picked my bridesmaid yet?! To me it seems she is only asking to see if I’ve picked her daughter as a bridesmaid or not. I haven’t yet made it official to anyone on who I’ve chosen but when I do start letting people know I know my MIL won’t take it well. The thought of her questioning my decision and not respecting my wishes is leaving me very stressed as the last thing I want is any drama when it’s suppose to be our special day. I don’t think it’s fair I should be made to feel I need to please others.
What’s everyone’s opinions? X
