Bridesmaids don’t get on

I’m a bridesmaid and I am struggling with other bridesmaids too , 2 that I don’t know very well although I’m not very reserved. I would say if you want to get more involved actually ask your friend what has happened / ask to see
Messages etc and then you can make your own judgment. I do think there is something about hen dos that turn people into bridesmaidzillas. It is really hard to accommodate a lot of requests in hen dos but it can also bring out a lot of jealous/ competition and controlling / my way or the high way behaviour!! Also there is a lot of assumption and expectation and people think differently! Hope it works itself out. I imagine she didn’t come lightly to backing out of the hen do and doesn’t want to let you down. I imagine it’s just got very stressful and she feels she isn’t being listened to by the others. I think maybe reiterated your preferences for the hen do. Some bridesmaids think that they know what you want but they don’t really!! 🤣🤣

My mum got married in 2018, I was a bridesmaid, alongside my ex-best friend who'd been around my family since we were children. We had major issues with one another. At the end of the day We both had to put our feelings aside for my mum. We were civil and even danced together just to make my mum happy. She was so stressed about it from our initial reactions. She just made sure we weren't standing or sitting next to each other. Honestly, if I can put that aside (deep story as to why we weren't friends anymore) then your bridesmaids can too! They need to decide if their friendship with you is more important than their feelings towards each other. Try to get to the bottom of what's happened and why these feelings are there and have a calm conversation with the bridesmaid who's backing out of events because of it.